Coping with loneliness

Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday. It was a good, mutual breakup but I'm so sad about losing the actual relationship. We were best friends... open minded and good listeners. He wants to stay friends and as much as I'd really like to, I can't see that happening. He doesn't really feel emotions (generally I mean... he has schizoid) and it hurts too much because I'm hypersensitive and I was the only one trying for the entire relationship (SO HARD) to make it work. I have nobody to talk to about this because I'm very introverted and I have social anxiety. I'm weird, and I have a very hard time finding friends, especially since my interests are sort of strange. I'm going to try and put myself out there this week and cultivate some friendships but again it's really challenging for me. Can anyone give me any advice for being completely alone and having no one to talk to? I see a therapist once every 2 weeks and I write in my journal every day but I'm scared this loneliness will drive me into pickup up old, bad habits. Please, any tips you have are welcomed.

Sorry if this isn't the right place to put this, but I could really use some advice.

Hello babymonkey: The Skeezyks prefers not to offer suggestions. But if he were going to try to cultivate some new friendships, what he would do is to become involved in some social / volunteer activities that would be of interest. Not everyone you'd be likely to meet is going to become a friend. But getting to know people with whom you share common interests might be where you would be the most likely to find people with whom you could establish friendships. At least this is how it appears to me...

I am sorry for you pain... time heals all wounds but for now (((hugs))) we are here for you... tc

Yeah... thanks for taking the time to offer advice, I appreciate it.

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You're kind, thank you.

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As a person who has spent a huge amount of time alone and felt lonely, I would suggest the thing not to do, namely to keep yourself isolated because no one will come and knock your door and break your loneliness. Just go out and be around people. Some people suggested to me meetup groups, and I'm currently signed up for different groups. I'm still not connected with anyone, but I guess it might take time to find the right group and the right person. Good luck

I think I have similar behavior to yours. It is difficult for me to make friends, much less find them. I too see a Therapist and do a lot of writing. The writing really helps me. I also just recently spent an extended time period at home and alone. The things I did that helped me were listening to music, doing Spring cleaning in my apartment, going through my clothes and taking all the old ones to the donation drop off. Sticking to a regular eating and sleeping schedule are important too.

It is also good that you have given yourself the goal of getting out with the intention of making some new friends. Surrounding yourself with new people, going new places, and doing new things will help not allow you to slip back into the past behaviors that might have been self-destructive.

I have the pretty much the same issue and as like you, am looking for different ways in which to cope with it.