Bothered by my husband fiddling with things

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:09 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Same as rcat I really want to be supportive but having hard time understanding the issue. How can fiddling effect your well being. I also don't understand how fiddling with things is sign of immaturity. If it bothers you when you two watch tv then reposition yourself so you two aren't facing each other. How much tv do people really watch that it could be that detrimental to ones well being? I am really lost with this. Is this a new marriage?

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It is more than fiddling. My background is also involved here?

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Ever watch how a child will constantly "fiddle" with something? It is a form of adaptive behavour.

It is far more involved than just fiddling . I think if it actually was just that it might have been tolerable.

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:14 PM

[QUOTE=ManOfConstantSorrow;5000178]I used to do this a lot - my wife tasered me last December. I have not fiddled since.[/QUOTE
Hope you guys are alright!

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Immature people usually carry these behavior patterns over from childhood into adulthood.

That may be but I wonder about feeling insecure.

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

Many people have OCD, GAD, ASD, ADHD, tourettes etc labeling them and their fiddling as immature is maybe kind of sign of immaturity all in itself

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I wasn't the one who ventured into that . It is most likely energy releasing and sensory stimulation there is more to it than fiddling and it just really gets me. It is very confusing.

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by -jimi-

A kid I know made a necklace with all different plastic beads, different shapes and colors. I had to put it away because it was too inviting to "fiddle" with. It became the ultimate stim toy. Some objects are like that. I'm not much for stimming but some stuff has to be touched. Every bead different, felt different looked different. And if you stretched the string you could spin beads separately, LOL.

And yea, I have aspergers so...

As for being immature altogether, not so much.

Life is tough guess we all have a lot going on!

PianogirlPlays · Apr 08, 2016, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by rcat

I want to be supportive but there are worse things to be upset about in a relationship

Yeah, too bad I am sick too.

-jimi- · Apr 08, 2016, 07:22 PM

You sure he is not an aspie? I dunno why but over and over I see women who have issues hooking up with aspie men. I think it is cuz the aspie man seems very secure and non threatening at first. But later on in the relationship the non aspie feels neglected.

Thunder Bow · Apr 09, 2016, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by PianogirlPlays

That may be but I wonder about feeling insecure.

Insecurity goes well with immaturity. They both work together.

ManOfConstantSorrow · Apr 13, 2016, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

I used to do this a lot - my wife tasered me last December. I have not fiddled since.[/QUOTE
Hope you guys are alright!

Yes, fine thanks for asking. It seemed to reset my system so I felt less anxious and depressed. My wife uses it in her work. She is a dominatrix and her clients pay well for being tasered.

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