stopping the inner critic~

Gus1234U · Apr 13, 2016, 11:11 AM

HippieBea posted this article for her Saturday morning Hosted Chat on Spirituality. but it is mostly on self-acceptance, and how to get it. i thought i could be of use to so many, who might otherwise not see it,, that i'm posting the link here, and some excerpts:

The Deal I Cut with My Inner Critic. | elephant journal

[First: When you start to squawk about something I’m wearing that you don’t particularly like or think I look presentable in, I will politely yet firmly tell you to stop talking. Once you quiet down I pledge to myself to breath deeply and allow my heart to choose my clothing. My joy comes from the fun of organizing my outfits, not in listening to you derail my fashion sense.

Second: For the times you amplify my self-doubt, almost making me miss out on fun events or keep my mouth shut for fear of rejection, I will firmly tell you to knock it off and then repeat to myself five times, “I am worthy of fun and have a right to my own opinions.” If you chime in again, I’ll continue my feel-good mantra until you stop.

Third: If I catch you body shaming me again I’m going to find a sunny spot outside and force you to feel how amazing it is to be alive. And I’m going to continue soaking up the joyful rays again and again until you quiet down and realize that I actually love my body. I may not be a model, but I don’t need my Inner Critic making me feel like a nobody simply because my thighs rub together.

Fourth: Every time you remind me that I could fail, I promise to forge ahead and counter your fearful attacks with a memory of a time when I succeeded and I felt strong and capable. I might even write out that memory on a piece of paper I find in my car or in my purse to visually see how amazing I really am, despite your constant fear that I may not cut the mustard.

And fifth and finally: I pledge to be kind to you, Inner Critic. To remind myself that your primary job so long ago was to keep me safe. And although you started acting like a total douche canoe at times, I forgive you. I really do.

By the way, you should know that I’ve turned over your primary duties to my intuition. It is effective at keeping me safe and helping me know if I’m on the right track. So Inner Critic, relax. I got this. It’s time you’re my friend and not my frenemy. Besides, I look better in purple polka dots than you do.]

Apr 22, 2016, 09:53 AM

I like this.

Born To Succeed · Apr 22, 2016, 12:47 PM

This is awesome. I know someone who could use these words right now, and I know I'm going to keep them in a place where I'll be reminded often. TY.

motherme · Apr 23, 2016, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Gus1234U

HippieBea posted this article for her Saturday morning Hosted Chat on Spirituality. but it is mostly on self-acceptance, and how to get it. i thought i could be of use to so many, who might otherwise not see it,, that i'm posting the link here, and some excerpts:

The Deal I Cut with My Inner Critic. | elephant journal

[First: When you start to squawk about something I’m wearing that you don’t particularly like or think I look presentable in, I will politely yet firmly tell you to stop talking. Once you quiet down I pledge to myself to breath deeply and allow my heart to choose my clothing. My joy comes from the fun of organizing my outfits, not in listening to you derail my fashion sense.

Second: For the times you amplify my self-doubt, almost making me miss out on fun events or keep my mouth shut for fear of rejection, I will firmly tell you to knock it off and then repeat to myself five times, “I am worthy of fun and have a right to my own opinions.” If you chime in again, I’ll continue my feel-good mantra until you stop.

Third: If I catch you body shaming me again I’m going to find a sunny spot outside and force you to feel how amazing it is to be alive. And I’m going to continue soaking up the joyful rays again and again until you quiet down and realize that I actually love my body. I may not be a model, but I don’t need my Inner Critic making me feel like a nobody simply because my thighs rub together.

Fourth: Every time you remind me that I could fail, I promise to forge ahead and counter your fearful attacks with a memory of a time when I succeeded and I felt strong and capable. I might even write out that memory on a piece of paper I find in my car or in my purse to visually see how amazing I really am, despite your constant fear that I may not cut the mustard.

And fifth and finally: I pledge to be kind to you, Inner Critic. To remind myself that your primary job so long ago was to keep me safe. And although you started acting like a total douche canoe at times, I forgive you. I really do.

By the way, you should know that I’ve turned over your primary duties to my intuition. It is effective at keeping me safe and helping me know if I’m on the right track. So Inner Critic, relax. I got this. It’s time you’re my friend and not my frenemy. Besides, I look better in purple polka dots than you do.]

Hello Gus1234U - I just love this post !!!

What a wise individual you are or have become. If you do not mind I am going to steal some of this for myself and put it on my fridge to remind me about what my inner critics job is. Thank you for a memorable post. motherme

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