[smartiesparty]

What can one do when they are stuck with a problem they cannot talk to anyone about ?
I am emotionally suffering a lot, for the past few days, and I know I can't talk to anyone about it.
My chest feels all constricted and I am having very strong bad urges to do harm to myself.

[Skeezyks]

Hello smartieparty: Well... the Skeezyks has a lot of stuff he can never talk about. But in my case it's mostly stuff that happened many years ago. It sounds to me as though what you're writing about here is perhaps something that has happened recently or will happen soon. I don't know as I have any particularly useful suggestions for you here. Talking things through really is the primary way in which people deal with difficult problems.

I guess I'm not clear with regard to if this is something that happened to you, or if it is something you're going to need to do that you don't know how to handle. If it's something that happened to you, sometimes writing about things can help... either here on PC or perhaps in a journal. Another option might be calling a mental health hotline if there is something of that nature where you live. You could then talk about it... but anonymously. I've also heard of people doing collages of things that have happened to them. Other than that... physical exertion helps dissipate strong emotions sometimes.

If this is a problem you're confronting... something you need to do something about that you don't know how to handle, then again writing about it, or talking about it anonymously may help. But beyond that, figuring out a step-by-step plan for how to address the problem may help you to begin to feel as though you at least have some control over the situation... you're not just waiting for something to happen to you.

I'm sorry this about all that comes to my mind as far as how you might handle whatever it is you are confronting. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will reply with some better suggestions. I wish you well...

Originally Posted by smartiesparty

What can one do when they are stuck with a problem they cannot talk to anyone about ?
I am emotionally suffering a lot, for the past few days, and I know I can't talk to anyone about it.
My chest feels all constricted and I am having very strong bad urges to do harm to myself.

Would you feel able to talk to someone about the urges you are having? You could choose what you do tell that person, leaving out anything you feel unable to share.

There are Crisis lines available in most areas, I don't know where you are living, but chances are there will be something in your area. These are an option if you are feeling the urge to harm yourself, they can help keep you safe, and you can choose not to tell them anything you don't want to.

Please stay safe.

[Brasucasulu]

Life is a gift, never forget that. Think of people dying right now in a hospital, they'd do anything to have your health. Love yourself and stay happy.

[smartiesparty]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello smartieparty: Well... the Skeezyks has a lot of stuff he can never talk about. But in my case it's mostly stuff that happened many years ago. It sounds to me as though what you're writing about here is perhaps something that has happened recently or will happen soon. I don't know as I have any particularly useful suggestions for you here. Talking things through really is the primary way in which people deal with difficult problems.

I guess I'm not clear with regard to if this is something that happened to you, or if it is something you're going to need to do that you don't know how to handle. If it's something that happened to you, sometimes writing about things can help... either here on PC or perhaps in a journal. Another option might be calling a mental health hotline if there is something of that nature where you live. You could then talk about it... but anonymously. I've also heard of people doing collages of things that have happened to them. Other than that... physical exertion helps dissipate strong emotions sometimes.

If this is a problem you're confronting... something you need to do something about that you don't know how to handle, then again writing about it, or talking about it anonymously may help. But beyond that, figuring out a step-by-step plan for how to address the problem may help you to begin to feel as though you at least have some control over the situation... you're not just waiting for something to happen to you.

I'm sorry this about all that comes to my mind as far as how you might handle whatever it is you are confronting. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will reply with some better suggestions. I wish you well...

I may write it in a journal but I'm always scared somebody might find it. But thanks for suggesting it, I will maybe look to write a letter that I can destroy afterwards...

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

Would you feel able to talk to someone about the urges you are having? You could choose what you do tell that person, leaving out anything you feel unable to share.

There are Crisis lines available in most areas, I don't know where you are living, but chances are there will be something in your area. These are an option if you are feeling the urge to harm yourself, they can help keep you safe, and you can choose not to tell them anything you don't want to.

Please stay safe.

Thank you for your reply. There is only one crisis hotline where I am, and it is one for suicidal people but I believe I haven't reached that point yet and do not want to make lines busy when there are people struggling with very severe thoughts.

Originally Posted by Brasucasulu

Life is a gift, never forget that. Think of people dying right now in a hospital, they'd do anything to have your health. Love yourself and stay happy.

I'm happy you replied, but telling someone to stay happy and enjoy happy seems a bit ironic on a mental health forum.
I'm not dying in hospital, but it sure feels as if I am slowly decaying inside and I would do anything to have a healthy person's mental health.

Thank you for your reply. There is only one crisis hotline where I am, and it is one for suicidal people but I believe I haven't reached that point yet and do not want to make lines busy when there are people struggling with very severe thoughts.

I can understand your reasoning believing you are not at the point. If I tell you that I met a man who works on a crisis line (in UK, 'The Samaritans') who told me that they are often contacted by people who feel like you do (that they are not at the worst point, that there is someone worse off who may need more) does that shed a different light on things? You are a thoughtful and considerate person, but you are the person they want to talk with - to head things off before they get worse. They are there for you, please do not struggle alone.

How are you doing today Smartiesparty?

[smartiesparty]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

How are you doing today Smartiesparty?

Today has been very hard but I have taken anxiolytics to ease this horrible feeling I'm experiencing. I have so many thoughts in my head and it is making me tired.
Thank you for asking.

Good to hear from you, take it slowly and be very kind to yourself.