[Brasucasulu]

I have been struggling all my life with low self image and depression. Although I have successful moments in my career I was felt not good enough. I hate pictures of myself, my voice, my hair, my teeth eyes, etc. besides the fact that I'm always very scared of everything.
My friend thinks that all this comes from the fact that I my mother was very abusive with me, and I was very neglected fro very early age. We were very poor and had not much access to anything. We live together in house with my aunt and my cousin who had a little more money and were very spoiled. I didn't feel jealous of what my cousins had, I was even happy for her getting nice gifts.
I was lucky enough to study and eventually went to fo my degree in Europe. But I'm afraid the trauma us still there.
How can I overcome all this feeling and become a better and happier person?

Hi Brasucasulu, I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and that you went through those things in your past. I think its great that you want to work on yourself and grow, from what it sounds like, and deal with the way you feel. Sometimes therapy can be helpful. It is for me, anyway. Other things that could help: reading self help books, doing things you enjoy, talking to a friend, or posting here. I think that trauma is something that runs deep, and its not something that you get well from in say, a day. It takes time, so be kind to yourself.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Brasucasulu: Well... the Skeezyks can only respond to this in terms of himself. I'm an older person now. And I've carried my personal trauma with me for a lifetime. I know that, in my case, all that went on with me decades ago is a snarled ball of wire that will never be untwisted. And to imagine that it might be is, in my case, simply chasing fool's gold. I presume it is not that way for everyone. But it is for me. So, as a result, I simply strive to accept things as they are in the present... with lovingkindness & compassion...

[BrazenApogee]

Getting a good therapist trained and experienced in trauma has helped me a lot. I still haven't talked about anything, but he understands more than I've spoken.

[Brasucasulu]

Thank you! I am seriously considering therapy. Glad that it works for you. We can't change the past, but we can make a better future. Sat well

Originally Posted by starrysky

Hi Brasucasulu, I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and that you went through those things in your past. I think its great that you want to work on yourself and grow, from what it sounds like, and deal with the way you feel. Sometimes therapy can be helpful. It is for me, anyway. Other things that could help: reading self help books, doing things you enjoy, talking to a friend, or posting here. I think that trauma is something that runs deep, and its not something that you get well from in say, a day. It takes time, so be kind to yourself.

[Brasucasulu]

Thank you! I like you attitude. Good luck with everything.

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello Brasucasulu: Well... the Skeezyks can only respond to this in terms of himself. I'm an older person now. And I've carried my personal trauma with me for a lifetime. I know that, in my case, all that went on with me decades ago is a snarled ball of wire that will never be untwisted. And to imagine that it might be is, in my case, simply chasing fool's gold. I presume it is not that way for everyone. But it is for me. So, as a result, I simply strive to accept things as they are in the present... with lovingkindness & compassion...

[Brasucasulu]

That's amazing! I'm happy for you. I hope you will find what your looking for. Thanks for you kind reply

Originally Posted by BrazenApogee

Getting a good therapist trained and experienced in trauma has helped me a lot. I still haven't talked about anything, but he understands more than I've spoken.

[BLUEDOVE]

God bless and give you courage.
Blessings,
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[*Laurie*]

For me, (somewhat) overcoming childhood trauma - of which there was plenty - happened because I have accepted that the adults in my life were just people...people doing their best...even when they didn't seem to be doing the best they could do.