[Aviza]

Overheard a conversation a coworker was having. His recent vacation was a European trip. Spain, France. My life is just empty. I'm alone most of the time. Weekends almost nothing to do. Chores and errands if I have any money.

Today my joy is my laundry unit arrived.

What can you do to change things in a positive way?

Are you functioning well unmedicated?

[Thunder Bow]

Comparing yourself to others is a short cut to feeling bad about yourself. You do not have to do that. Just be yourself, lack of money and all.

[divine1966]

Don't compare yourself to others as it is a bad idea. Find your own fun things to do. Join meet up and meet like minded people.

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[Aviza]

Well I have my songwriting group but can't always participate due to money, gas, parking fees, copywrite fees, etc. Really I don't have many friends to hang with, family basically cut me out, mom excluded.

I really can't afford to go out every night so people quit asking. I'm not big into drinking either. I'm trying to plan things like summer trips for next year. When I can use vacation at work. Nothing extravagant but a change of scenes with my daughter.

I am getting together with a friend this weekend. I do have friends but all except one lives out of state. The out of state ones get together a couple times a year. I'm really a family type with no family. They all have someone or a family.

Without med I'm ok. The quirk I don't like is thinking out loud frequently. I'm upping my B6 too accommodate. It's a recent problem. Maybe antibiotics related or because I quit my vitamins. The more stressed I feel the more it comes out. New job, coworkers who are doing weird stuff to me. Adding to my stress. Financial stress is a constant in my life the con just made it much worse.

I owe student loans, judgement from con experience, back taxes con experience, car, insurance, tabs, phone, electric, rent. Gas, food, little money for fun if any. Too unhealthy too keep up two jobs. Just tired of trying so hard to get nowhere.

[Thunder Bow]

Just stop feeling bad about yourself. I think all of us has dealt with what your dealing with, at one time or another.

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

Just stop feeling bad about yourself. I think all of us has dealt with what your dealing with, at one time or another.

i find this really invalidating and belittling of op's problems. i'm in the same situation as op but with even less going for me. it's never as simple as "just stop feeling bad".

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by ennui.

i find this really invalidating and belittling of op's problems. i'm in the same situation as op but with even less going for me. it's never as simple as "just stop feeling bad".

Some get into a pattern of feeling bad about oneself. It is usually do to ones growing up experiences. In this case, feeling bad about one self is habit that is an old friend to this poster, that is hard to say goodbye to. There is much survival investment placed in this. In this case, "just stop feeling bad about yourself" can be a positive step in ones healing.

[Erin Hay Hay]

If you're feeling down because of your coworker talking about his vacation in France and Spain, I can tell you that I've been living there for the past few years and... they're just two more countries in the world. Believe me, I would do ANYTHING to be back in the US Midwest...

Recently, I was helping a friend move to Italy. She had had a horrible first week at work and I arrived in Milan to help her getting settled. We took a train to visit Venice in the weekend and during all the way there she complained about what a horrible idea it had been to move to Italy, how difficult it was to get settled and how hostile her coworkers were. She was feeling jealous of another friend of ours who just like her, had recently moved to Prague and was already posting photos on Facebook partying and having the time of her life. So I told her "hey, what don't you take a selfie and put it online saying something like wine tasting by the canals of Venice. People won't know how miserable you actually are but they will also be jealous of you!".

What I mean is people tend to exaggerate things. If you're feeling better visiting your friends out of state with your daughter go for it! I know for a fact that you'll be way happier than many people who sunbathe in the Côte d'Azur...