[Shirt1212]

3 years ago we moved from North Carolina to New Jersey. At the time I was pregnant with my second child and my first child was 8 months I think. I get very sick when I'm pregnant and my second wasn't planed so I was pretty depressed and emotional. The day before the move we found out the gender of our second so we could either pack up all the first's baby stuff or get rid of it. I called my mom to tell her at the same time my husband called his mother. Apparently that was rude and I got guilt tripped. We chose the base we did so we would be closer to our home town, so my mom could come visit her grandkids. We could have picked anywhere. Literal paridise. But I picked New Jersey for family. I do love it here, it actually really nice. We are gonna be moving again soon and I'm so happy I'm not sick, so happy my kids are older. Just these feeling keep coming up.

My sister calling me to tell me how crappy it was for my mom not to find out first. Them both harrassing me the day before I had my son. All the stress and unfair emotions they put on me. I know now that I shouldn't have fought with them, that I should have just hung up and not let it bother me but I didn't. And it hurts. I tried to talk to my sister and build a bridge with her. She told me she didn't need this stress she was pregnant.... the way they treated me while I was pregnant with both of my children. I should really cut contact with my sister too, I haven't talked to my mom in almost 2 years. She doesn't know my son she doesn't know my daughter.

I'm just feeling emotional, packing up again and knowing how bad I felt before. How much guilt stress and shame I had last time. I'm tired and I wish I could just feel better about the move.

[Thunder Bow]

Move, then you will feel better.

[MickeyCheeky]

[BLUEDOVE]

Look up NPD (narcissistic personality disorder),and see if you
recognise any of traits in M+S. Meanwhile,here's a little
quote: "In order to love one's self,one must behave in ways
one can respect and admire."
Courage,
BLUEDOVE

[Gojamadar]

Hi,
There are times when you have to put down your foot ,even with close family. You should always put your own family first, above everyone else. You're an adult and should be able to make your own decision.
No need to be apprehensive about it. Explain to your mum and sister your decision and be firm but polite.
Sooner or later they will come round.

[gayleggg]

I agree with the other person that said you will feel better after the move. Moving is stressful at anytime but more so with family drama. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself even if it means cutting the drama makers out of your life.

[Yours_Truly]

Calling both mothers at the same time was a great idea. It seems immature of your mom and sister to be so hurt by it. As adults, you would think they would understand what you and your husband were trying to accomplish.
I'm sorry they aren't more understanding.