[Marylin]

I am a member of another forum.There is one member there who is egotistical,acts morally superior,plays the victim,is nasty,judgemental and always projects his own faults onto others.The mods favour him cos they are best pals with him.He only has to complain about my posts being about him and they remove them,they do not protect me from his posts.They allow him to be rude and aggressive and verbally abusive and do not issue him with infractions whereas the rest of us get disciplined hard for minor slights.
I asked them to look into why one of my threads was removed and accused them of favouring this guy,they ignore my questions,skirt the issues and make evasive responses.One mod told me she was working too many hours,had a life of her own outside the forum and I'd have to wait,I replied it wasn't my problem,that she had no righ t to make excuses and dump her problems on me and I was entitled to a prompt and precise reply to my question.They said I was disrespectful and issued me with a 24 hour ban.

I am fed up with them favouring this guy and ignoring my complaints.I think I will leave that forum and come back on here.There treatment of me is unacceptable and makes me angry ,they have no right to mess me about and they are playing favourites,the person in charge does nothing when you complain,just ignores me.They are going to lose out cos since I was on that forum it became more popular.I won't go there again.Let them lose traffic,I don't care.

Now I am all stirred up and have all this bad feeling towards them.It is annoying to vent and have all your post removed without having them break the rules or warrant an infraction,they just remove my post even though I have done nothing wrong just cos they are asked to by their mate.
So unfair to have favourites.

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you were treated unfairly. Doesn't sound like there is a good solution except to leave the forum. That would save to the stress of having to deal with this person. You are welcome here.

[campervanman]

`If you can`t beat them` "then" come back to this forum!! `It`s they`re loss!!

Welcome............

[Fuzzybear]

I'm sorry to hear this you're welcome here

[Thunder Bow]

Enjoy this forum. The forum you were in was all about Control, I think I know what forum you are talking about, for they also did that to me. I find Control is a big problem in many forums.

[Marylin]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

You can join my forum if you like.

Enjoy this forum. The forum you were in was all about Control, I think I know what forum you are talking about, for they also did that to me. I find Control is a big problem in many forums.

I have never had a problem like that with this forum.That one yes,it is all about sucking up to the mods and the mods feeling they are in charge and powerful.I am ed up of them denying favouritism and being all over this one person on the forum,posting in debates with him,calling him mate etc but I have already moaned about this.Tonight they tried to say I was disrespectful to a mod when it was her disrespecting me.I am the victim and they make out they are,it is typical narcissist tactics.I am fed up of it,that forum gets me down.I posted I was being treated unfairly and someone asked why and
I replied it is against the rules for me to talk about it.They said I posted that to provoke the mods and make the forum look bad.I can't win.How am I supposed to respond when it is against their rules.I only said the truth.I wasn't provoking them at all.But it shows they see me an an enemy.
I won't be spending my time and energy on there increasing their traffic.I will come back here.I always liked it here but I was using that forum four years and two years before I found this one I was used to it there.The person they favour on there was banned from here he was always creating upset over his views on religion,politics and his opposition to the biomedical model of mental illness.He is always on the attack and then plays the victim when called out on it.He and I do not get on,the times I have been in trouble have all been from run ins with him.

Your forum seems awesome,I am going to look into it and may join,I used to read about native American spirituality and am interested in it,it is a long time since I explored this type of spiritual outlet,I would like to bring out that side of me again,it is another aspect of the divine.I have strong faith in God and Jesus but all roads are enriching and lead to other aspects of divine love and all paths are an interesting reflection of God's love.

I think that forum drama happens everywhere. I'm not trying to take away from your experience or say that you should just deal, rather I'm saying that I think this is a common dynamic that plays itself out a lot when you have mods that get on a power kick. I myself was a member of a forum that had its share of issues....I left there about a month ago and came here....Honestly, I like this place better. The rules are better, the people seem to be less enabling of one another, and I just get an overall better vibe here. I think its a matter of finding a good place and making it your "home" so to speak. Hugs.

[Marylin]

Well that other forum upset me again today.They are asking for volunteers to join admin and forum staff and this one person who I complained to them was being favoured said he wanted to become admin.I posted I object to him becoming admin or staff,he asked why and I posted why.No less than the boss of the whole forum issued me with an infraction saying I had provoked and attacked another member and I was given a two day ban.This is the boss I wrote to accusing the mods of favouritism towards this member and staff of disrespecting me and unfairly giving me infractions.
So I doubt I am regarded fairly there or matter to them at all.In spite of the fact they said I was incredibly helpful most of the time to other members there,and they once asked me to join staff and I know I increased traffic to the site with my contributions.
I am no longer going to use that site,because they have used and abused me and now the staff and even the boss is pursuing a vendetta against me.I am not going to spend any more time getting upset.I am gone and it is for the best,they don't deserve to have me there or my time or my contributions.They are lousy control freaks and it is disgusting they would not allow me to voice my concerns and reservations about Golden Boy joining staff.That is something all members are entitled to hear about and know why he is not suited to the post.
I am happy to be free of that place I was giving far more support to people than I was getting.Good riddance.

[Thunder Bow]

Some forums are all about Control, and they make a game out of it. Just quit them. Use this forum more and enjoy this one. You have to have the freedom to practice your faith without being controlled.

[Marylin]

So today my 42 hour ban on that other forum ended.I had told them I was leaving anyway due to moderator unfairness and bias.They weren't having me saying I left for that reason so they terminated my membership which makes them mean and petty.I have a lot of heavy expletives to use against them,I am sure their membership will go down,the person I complained bias towards is the main poster there,he has been there over ten years,it gets boring cos he posts the same material over and over,it isn't going to be interesting anymore cos not only am I gone lots of other really nice,interesting people have left.They logged me out and closed my account and sent me an email saying they did not have the time and energy to keep my account going,which is a reference to a complaint I made against mods,they kept me always waiting for answers to my queries and made a big deal out of being volunteers freely giving up their time,I got told off by one cos she felt she worked too many hours and had a life outside that place,I said how is that my fault and my problem and they banned me for disrespect but that wasn't why ever since I claimed they were using bias against me they have been trying to get rid of me.It will go downhill now.It is rubbish the way they treated me but I was on there for four years,I will miss it even though it has gone crap there,I got used to it.But as you say Thunder Bow,it was all about control and I am done with that now.I feel a great deal of hatred towards all involved in this pitiful state of affairs. Especially the boss of the whole forum who never used to show his face unless he was after free effort from people to boost his forum he must make a lot of money from all the ads.

[eyesclosed]

Sorry u know like it here. Really I think any forum you will have this to some degree. I also believe people who have no mental health problems join and target someone And beware of the catfish for they know people here can be lonely and take advantage of them. I hope u are not harassed here.

[Marylin]

Oh I do like it here eyesclosed,it is the other forum I have had problems with.Thanks for the warning,I don't think anyone can take advantage of me here,I feel comfortable and safe here and have never had any problems with anyone here.Thanks for your interest and concern and for the warning.