[fijiisland]

I thought my parents were upstairs. I was in kitchen getting a quick snack when my parents just came right through the garage into kitchen. I of course jumped a mile and let out a yell (like I always do when they scare me, since I am constantly on eggshells around them) I had food on a napkin and just crunched the food up in a ball to throw away to get away from them. As I started running up the stairs to my bedroom, my father said "Do you know what this is??? (while opening a cabinet drawer). This is a knob.. Use it when you open the drawer because your fingerprints are taking the finish off the cabinets" So I said "I do use the knobs" and then ran up to my room to throw my food away that was all smashed up into the napkin.

And that is why I stay in my bedroom all day, away from them. You never know what they will say or do next. There is always something wrong. ALWAYS!!! my whole life i was taught I am bad, wrong, everyone is bad and wrong but ONLY my parents are right. If you disagree with them you are messed up!!

And I am almost 50 years old. If I don't make money soon I am going to commit suicide. And I already have a full time job. and also i'm sure my kids fingerprints are the ones on the drawers, but I get yelled at for it, but they don't. If I disagree with my parents over the color of a spoon, I am sent to my room and told I am kicked out!!!

The only way I see out is for them to die.

[Skeezyks]

[Open Eyes]

You are not five, this is your parents reverting back to their learned way of dealing with their child that they never let go of or grew out of doing. Also, sadly your parents are probably older being that you are 50 and often what can happen when parents get older is they tend to express their "faults/flaws" more as they can begin to lose their filter. Your father sounds like a bossy crotchety old man.

Now, stand up to them and be assertive and don't allow yourself to act like a child again. Next time eat your cake and then when you are done "walk" up the stairs and say good night.

[Thunder Bow]

Can you move out on your own??

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

You are not five, this is your parents reverting back to their learned way of dealing with their child that they never let go of or grew out of doing. Also, sadly your parents are probably older being that you are 50 and often what can happen when parents get older is they tend to express their "faults/flaws" more as they can begin to lose their filter. Your father sounds like a bossy crotchety old man.

Now, stand up to them and be assertive and don't allow yourself to act like a child again. Next time eat your cake and then when you are done "walk" up the stairs and say good night.

Don't run away, keep your dignity and stand your ground.

I don't live with my parents and love them very much but they still both like to tell me how to go on sometimes - it has driven me crazy in the past. My mother once told me how to tie my laces, my dad recently told me to stop rubbing my eye I just told them I am 45 and big enough to make my own choices. Same for you, no need to run and hide.

[Monarch Butterfly]

Would your parents listen if you told them you don't like the way they treat you?

Could you move out or stay with a friend or family member?

[Nammu]

I'm worried that you think the solution is for them to die. Do you have someone you can talk to?

[bipolar angel]

Im so sorry that you are having a rough time. Can you talk to T or pdoc? Religious person like your priest/rabbi,etc? Talk to a friend? Only bevause you mention, if you dont make miney soon..think about suidide and you mention only way out is if they die.so i can feel how angry/frustrated/hurt you are...not judging here...just hooing you can talk to someone to let out some if the anger...so you can figure out a plan that works for you.
Good luck-and sometimes our parents are toxic people

[Teddy Bear]

Parents will parents just expect this.

[winter4me]

Do what is best for your kids by doing what is right for you---be the adult mother...
you can apply for housing subsidies if your income qualifies...
Sounds like you are, as a family, stuck in the past.
Get the help you need to move on.

[avlady]

I sure hope you can get your own place to live with your children, no need to walk on eggshells-I've been in that situation and it's scarry and no fun, you could have a nervous breakdown like I did!!