[ace333]

I'm completely stressed out. My anxiety won't stop. I'm seeing a therapist but it doesn't help. I'm stuck in stupid situation. I just want to silence my brain and I can't any tips

[Sunflower123]

The things that work for me are guided meditation, distraction and sleep. I hope you feel better soon. Sending big hugs.

Exercise is the thing that helps me the most, personally. Aside from that, as Jennifer said, distraction and sleep also work (although I wouldn't recommend sleep unless you actually need a nap or it's bed time). Distractions for me are watching TV shows/Youtube, playing video games or even something seemingly dull like household chores.

What situation are you stuck in? Is there anything you can do to change that?

[ace333]

Distraction hasn't been easy. I have an issue/skill that prevents me from distracting easily. I can focus on multiple things say, reading, tv and a conversation all once and repeat back what each said. So when I try to distract say watch tv or exercise i still focus on my issues and can't distract. I'm stuck in my mind. I'm in a situation that is not ideal. I had a bf for 9 years who up and broke up with me. But for the last month or so we have been " dating" he says were taking it slow, which would be fine, if it weren't for my brain. How do u take it slow after 9 years and we do everything like being in a relationship so why isn't the title there. And my brain with spiral from there and I can't shut it off.

[ace333]

That's not the only situation either. I started house shopping for my first home and I'm already overwhelmed. I hate not knowing what's happening, what's going to happen, I need to know and I need justification with everything, but I know I shouldn't and just let things pan out, but. I can't

[Fuzzybear]

[Leyla]

hi ace
are you taking any medications...sounds like you have ruminating thoughts.... i had them alot too and the same thing where my mind just would not shut off. i am taking meds and they have helped me immensley along with doing things to keep yourself busy like the other ladies suggested.

i know some people dont like to take meds, but in my case i have been on and off them pretty much all my life.... mostly on so if it can help than i will do that.

[hfontana]

Originally Posted by ace333

I'm completely stressed out. My anxiety won't stop. I'm seeing a therapist but it doesn't help. I'm stuck in stupid situation. I just want to silence my brain and I can't any tips

Yes, I know the feeling, "want[ing] to silence [your] brain and [you] can't".

I think the problem is twofold: first there's the anxiety which creates unwanted thoughts and second there is the obsessive desire to be able to control one's own thoughts, to silence them at will.

In any case, getting up and doing something, getting outside of one's own thoughts, that is the practical solution which has been supplied here adequately. I don't think there is a permanent solution even after medication and therapy, we have to learn to have patience for our own anxiety.

[continuosly blue]

I agree with all of the great suggestions you have been given. As for me personally, I could never " willfully control " all those unhelpful thoughts that flood my brain. What had happened was my brain developed these continual " loops " of negative thoughts that I could not break. I believe it's a law of physics that two " things " , physical or mental, cannot occupy the same space at the same time.
If you can just focus on the " now" , what's right in front of you , not the past or the future, you can " shut out " those thoughts that hijack your thinking.
Look at it like a greeting message on your answering machine that you decide
to erase and put in a NEW one ! In your brain it's called neuropathways.
You can develop new ones.
It may sound complicated but it's really not. Just takes practice.
And I have to start using the other half of my brain which is not emotional,
but practical and realistic. A part that got little use over the years.
The bottom line is that we can get through those times where we feel
there's no way out. We just have to be fortunate enough to learn how.
Mindfulness, that's what it's called.
Best to all...

[dlantern]

Get past life changing events home buying can be once in a lifetime. A break up after nine year it won't potential be another for another several years. I'm probably not the best at telling you to stay out of your mind because that is what I am living out loud living inside making sure we function and manage on most levels. It is what it is so make the best out of it.

[BlueCrustacean]

Personally, this video has saved me from an immense anxiety attack, and just general anxiety. It's a guided meditation video that you can just listen to and follow along with. I hope it helps.

[Shazerac]

Buying a house can be very stressful even though it's supposed to be a good thing.

My concern is that after that you posted a sort of "oh by the way, my boyfriend of 9 years who broke up with me is dating me now?." Hmmm. He wants to take it slow....ok. Maybe that's a good thing. Or maybe just maybe, your anxiety could be the result of part you screaming "omg what the hell am I doing here?"

Perhaps you have too much on your plate. I don't know your situation, but do you HAVE to buy a house right now? Is it a good idea to add to that picking back up with a man who broke with you?