Stress from an affair?

I can understand that but you are underestimating your abilities to build a better life with better friendships and more rewarding relationships.

The other way of looking at this is that time spent with this forbidden person robs you of opportunities to meet other people who are not forbidden.

I would definitely advise you to stop the sex right now, sex can be addictive because we release a whiole lot of feel good hormones including ones which make us feel bonded to a person. You will need to be very strong to stop this but you must if you are going to have a chance.

Glad you are realising the impact on his wife, chances are you aren't the first and may not be the last but you can stop being the one he is cheating on her with right now.

I unblocked my phone and received a long message from him. He says he hopes I am not ending it but if so he is grateful for meeting me and he will always be there for me. I have been crying on and off all day. I can't even eat (probably a good thing! lol) I know I will break down at some point and text him that I miss him.

This hurts my heart for you because in some ways I understand. You know he is bad for you and you crave him anyways. Been there and it didn't end well. I hope you find the strength you need to put yourself first and take care of you. You matter. You are important. You deserve happiness.

An old school friend kept talking to me as if he really liked me and had an affair. Then I got sick and tired of being used for sex all the time. It would always lead to sex when we hung out. He'd send me a really long email saying how he's sorry and that he misses me and wishes we were friends again and all this crap. I finally blocked him for good and it was such a relief. It's not with a married man but still not right. Everyone else has said what they have to say. I hope everything goes ok for you.

I was just reading through these posts to see what I wrote about this man. A week after I posted this I slept with him one last time and then never saw him again.
It has been 9 months now since I saw him and I still miss him. Not as bad. Some days are worse than others. He doesn't even have a clue of how I feel or felt!!

It never officially ended, at least for me. He backed off gradually after I sent him jealous, angry texts one night. He had had enough of me. But used his wife to end it, at least i think. Claimed she found something out.

I can't believe how hard this has been. Certain things happening will trigger something and make me miss him. I have had good days though where I hardly think about him and when I do, I can't believe I didn't and feel better!

I did reach out once or twice to him with not much avail and yes it did hurt again! it was almost as if I had to start over on going through the pain!! not fun! I am not sure why he got such a hold of me. my life is pretty awful so I think he gave me something I needed. sometimes when I am having a bad day I still get a feeling as if I need to tell him how I felt about him just to get it off my chest. I know it would make him run even further probably, and he probably wouldn't care one bit.

I miss having someone that cared about me, even if he was married.

I wouldn't reach out to him again. You may not get back the response you want, if he does respond, and it may hurt double all over again. Why do that to yourself, right? Too much time has passed now. I am sorry you are still hurting. As I've said in your other thread, this too shall pass, eventually. (((Hugs)))

Time will heal it. Please don’t contact him.