I I was told I have no right to be angry

I was told by nmom that I have no right to be angry. In eyes I have everything I need and including her so I have no right to be angery. I was accused of stealing at work. Although found not be to true I still got coached.

This article nails it: when I feel powerless I get angry

https://melodyfletcher.com/2012/03/0...motions-anger/

No one has the right to tell you how to feel, or not feel.....perhaps keep a journal when you feel angry; you are not powerless. YOU get to decide who you are; no one else.

You cannot control how you feel yet you can control your actions.
Your mom would have a point if you were going around and breaking windows but you’re not.... so....
you’re just angry and you have all the right to feel however you feel and people have to accept that, unless you’re making their life miserable by channeling your anger into their life

Your mom is full of it. You have every right to your emotions. It doesn't mean that you have to let your emotions control you or that you have to act on that anger, but you feel how you feel. There is no right or wrong.

It pisses me off so much when parents try to tell their children how to feel. That's what screws kids up and causes disordered thinking.

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Nobody can tell what to feel or not to feel.. You can just learn how to control your feelings.

Your feelings come from within YOU. No one has a right to tell you what you can, or cannot feel. However, They do have a right to ask you to control your actions. If your feelings are being expressed in ways that hurt others, and this includes words, then other people have a right to ask you to stop that hurting. A person can feel a whole lot without doing anything.

It is a common misconception that feeling something means you have to Do something about the feeling. Feelings are information about what is going on with you. It's like a language. Look at what it is saying about your situation. You don't have to do everything your feelings make you want to do, That is a choice. But, you Can listen to what the feeling is telling you about what is going on with you, and that is why we have them. They are information, like a radio broadcast from our guts. It would be ridiculous to tell the radio what to say, and it would be equally ridiculous to do everything the radio tells you to do.

Very well said !!!! Worth reading again , over and over.

Me too I sooo agree just to my own moment I have every right to be angry I tell myself to my pre teen years

Good posts in this thread... telling kids they have no right to be angry is quite a good way to screw them up

I hear you. My parents were of the opinion that I had no right to any emotion other than extreme happiness and thankfulness all the time because I had "no problems".