Venting recognizing an anger issue

Hello I'm just needing to vent. My friend said I have such anger issues we had a talk last night. She listened to my voice I told her u know me I have a fire and pitbull personality. Yea I still carry anger within me she said something to me about being nice to people. Why do people think I'm not nice to others? Long time I wasn't always nice to others.

I was telling her about something I strongly disagree with and I'm strong willed like a guy. Anyway it was brought to my attention of having a lot of anger within me. Yea it's pent up anger since I was a kid.

I came at a friend angrily on his bday last night. I feel so bad and I apologized to him. Him and I need to talk more about it today. I know I need more therapy I still have unresolved issues.

As for niceness. Some people can take offense at things that some other people don't even notice, so some of this is subjective. Don't hate yourself for having anger. Good luck to resolving the problems.

I get this a lot too. I feel like 50% of the population have become complete roll overs and will just do "whatever" and now that has become what is considered nice. But standing up for rules and things that matter now has become mean. When it isn't. So we get tagged as being mean.

IMHO mean is targeting people when there is no good reason to. But when there is there is no meanness.

Exactly. People have told me 4 years to calm down. I'm calm I just disagree with xyz. The very first therapist I saw her and I got at it bad about this topic. Why is it when a woman is so blunt like a guy it's a huge prob? That's why people say I'm mean.