okay.

so I recently read before I die by jenny downham, about a woman who has lukemia trying to complete her bucket list before she dies from the illness.
in the book, near the end, all her family are around her when she dies- her mother, her father, and her brother- it was so sweet

but.. I don't have those people

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I never met my father and don't know who he is

- the only brother I have wants nothing to do with me and says I am dead to him all ready

same with my mother

which naturally has got me thinking this afternoon about the whole dying alone situation... when I die, I am either A- going to die around total strangers

or B- going to die alone

I want to be like tessa in the book and die with my family round me, or at least people that meant something to me, but since I don't have that, I'm honestly not sure what I prefer to do

do I prefer to just die alone or die with people around me I've never even met?

thought of the day I guess...

[continuosly blue]

We all die alone.... no matter who’s in the room. I’m going to meet my creator.
I’m not afraid of leaving this world alone. When I was totally alone I would think about that a lot. But it’s all just a waste of time even thinking about it.
Dying is something you do by yourself no matter who is around.
Like I always said...you come in alone....and you go out alone. And I’m not making lite of your concerns. I would spend my time trying not to be alone in life. That to me is the torture.

[MickeyCheeky]

I have the same fear. Dying alone, and to never be remembered by anyone else in your life...

[Aviza]

When I lived alone I worried about dying and not being discovered. That's my fear, not in dying persay but not being noticed I'm gone. Because my family rarely talks to me when I'm not living with mom.

Anyway as far as dying alone. My step dad was in a house with people and still died alone. He was discovered when he was cold, and medics came. But he was alone at time of death.

It's not something I really think about except when I lived alone. And dying alone isn't what bothers me. But I worry less about being discovered, some people eased my mind.

I wish I had a good answer to this. None of us knows when or how we will be passing away... Even if we had a wonderful family and lots of friends that still does not ensure we wouldn’t go alone with nobody around...I think we all have these times that we think about and try to face our own mortality. It scares me too. Something that actually gives me comfort is to read about near death experiences. I like to think people are telling the truth about these experiences.. ❤️

Originally Posted by continuosly blue

We all die alone.... no matter who’s in the room. I’m going to meet my creator.
I’m not afraid of leaving this world alone. When I was totally alone I would think about that a lot. But it’s all just a waste of time even thinking about it.
Dying is something you do by yourself no matter who is around.
Like I always said...you come in alone....and you go out alone. And I’m not making lite of your concerns. I would spend my time trying not to be alone in life. That to me is the torture.

thanks for this very thought provoking post.

I know you're right, you could be in a room with a million people around you who care about you, and you wouldn't know about it (or maybe you would, just not have full conciousness)

they can't come with you to where ever is next

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when my friend bob died, he knew people were round him. okay, I don't really know how aware he was, but what I do know is that his final action was to hold my mother's hand and whisper " and now the start of my long vacation."

I will never forget that.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I have the same fear. Dying alone, and to never be remembered by anyone else in your life...

thanks for this.

I think the " being remembered" thing is a whole other topic.

I'm not going to be remembered for being the queen, or being a pop star, or being famous on tv, and I don't have family who will remember me either

but it would be nice to think, that somewhere, in the world, someone will remember me for something- no matter how small

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I often wonder if anyone at all would show up at my funeral

I certainly wouldn't want 300 strangers turning up at the church to talk about me, when none of them knew me

[xiximmxi]

I think about this quite a lot too, actually... My biggest fear is that I might die unexpectedly and I would leave everyone and everything behind without closure. I also fear that people who are left behind will either be too heartbroken or just indifferent because my life was meaningless to them. I fear that I won't be missed at all. That I will eventually be forgotten.

And strangely, I also worry about how I'd look when I'm dead and people going through my things.

I don't believe in hell or heaven. I don't know if there is a god or gods that welcome you at the gate and determine whether you were a good being or not. I think we are all sinners, and simply going to church or believing in God doesn't make you a decent person. We learn from our experiences and mistakes and each journey serves a different purpose in life. In everyone's lives. Because we are all together.

God or not, we should all be kind, honest, generous and supportive to each other in the name of humanity to not have so many regrets when we're dying. And that's what I strive to do every day.

Originally Posted by xiximmxi

I think about this quite a lot too, actually... My biggest fear is that I might die unexpectedly and I would leave everyone and everything behind without closure. I also fear that people who are left behind will either be too heartbroken or just indifferent because my life was meaningless to them. I fear that I won't be missed at all. That I will eventually be forgotten.

And strangely, I also worry about how I'd look when I'm dead and people going through my things.

I don't believe in hell or heaven. I don't know if there is a god or gods that welcome you at the gate and determine whether you were a good being or not. I think we are all sinners, and simply going to church or believing in God doesn't make you a decent person. We learn from our experiences and mistakes and each journey serves a different purpose in life. In everyone's lives. Because we are all together.

God or not, we should all be kind, honest, generous and supportive to each other in the name of humanity to not have so many regrets when we're dying. And that's what I strive to do every day.

have you

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planned your funeral/ arangements for after you die?

it sounds like something you might benifit from doing as you are worried about stuff like that

and anyway.. better late than never

[Open Eyes]

A lot of people die without family or anyone around them. My mother in law recently passed away and though we all loved her, it was sudden and she was alone when she passed away.

[divine1966]

When I am dead I am dead. I won’t be here so what happens after my death is really of no consequence to me. That’s how i look at it

[xiximmxi]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

have you

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planned your funeral/ arangements for after you die?

it sounds like something you might benifit from doing as you are worried about stuff like that

and anyway.. better late than never

No, I haven't done anything like that. Although I did try to write my will once.
Then I realized I don't even have that much stuff or money to reassign... Just need to make sure someone is going to take care of my cat.


I wish we all just disappeared into thin air as balls (?) of energy instead of leaving our rotting shells behind. Or become trees or something.
What if we run out of land burying coffins?

[Thunder Bow]

After 10,000 years, none of us will be remembered.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

After 10,000 years, none of us will be remembered.

We might be, if we can launch time capsules into space. Wouldn't it be cool to have an alien find your time capsule and see your videos and pictures and hear your favorite music, etc? And Twinkies (they last forever in space lol).

Originally Posted by Angelique67

We might be, if we can launch time capsules into space. Wouldn't it be cool to have an alien find your time capsule and see your videos and pictures and hear your favorite music, etc? And Twinkies (they last forever in space lol).

oh I think that would be really cool, if not launch it in to space- you could always bury it some place..

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

oh I think that would be really cool, if not launch it in to space- you could always bury it some place..

Yes lol!