[Ljj7000]

I'm having a hard time dealing with this. I hope I'm not the only one who is dealing with this type of problem. Whenever people remind me of my accomplishments and good stuff about my life, it adds to the pressure and anxiety that I already deal with. When people bring up my accomplishments and the good things about me, I feel like I should be happy and filled with joy. But I'm pissed that my mind won't allow me to feel happy about it. I think the reason why I feel this pressure has to do with living up to others idea of a good life and what if my life is good but then it gets ruined one day.

I'm really struggling with this. I really need some serious answers. I need some way to feel better about this.

Advice? Input? Am I the only one who feels this way? Please help.

[smmath]

I can relate to what you're going through. Whenever someone tells me that I'm a good person and I'm not a complete failure, I scoff at them. It's hard for me to take in the positive feedback. I sometimes feel invalidated when they recognize my accomplishments because I feel misunderstood as they don't acknowledge the tough times.

I try to remind myself to think dialectically: essentially the opposite of black and white thinking. I acknowledge that I have accomplishments but that doesn't mean I'm not struggling. It's okay to struggle even when there are good things happening. It's not my fault that my brain works against me at times.

I also remember that my path is different from anyone else's and that's okay. What I want in life isn't the same for everyone and it's okay to focus on what I want to do to feel content with my life.

The main thing for me is try and have grace for myself. I'm okay where I'm at. I can stay in the present moment and not look too far into the future for fear of the good times going away. I've learned enough to get through the tough times, so I can relax and focus on the here and now.

I hope this helps and I'm so sorry you're struggling.

[Ljj7000]

Originally Posted by smmath

I can relate to what you're going through. Whenever someone tells me that I'm a good person and I'm not a complete failure, I scoff at them. It's hard for me to take in the positive feedback. I sometimes feel invalidated when they recognize my accomplishments because I feel misunderstood as they don't acknowledge the tough times.

I try to remind myself to think dialectically: essentially the opposite of black and white thinking. I acknowledge that I have accomplishments but that doesn't mean I'm not struggling. It's okay to struggle even when there are good things happening. It's not my fault that my brain works against me at times.

I also remember that my path is different from anyone else's and that's okay. What I want in life isn't the same for everyone and it's okay to focus on what I want to do to feel content with my life.

The main thing for me is try and have grace for myself. I'm okay where I'm at. I can stay in the present moment and not look too far into the future for fear of the good times going away. I've learned enough to get through the tough times, so I can relax and focus on the here and now.

I hope this helps and I'm so sorry you're struggling.

Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you can relate. I feel better knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way. I just have to learn how to manage this feeling.

Do you see them as good achievements in your evaluation? Because for me, when people tell me what I have achieved, to me those are not achievements. So, I don't feel proud about them, and I don't feel good whenever I remember them.