[KD1980]

I decided to follow an actress on Instagram and to my surprise, she followed me back! I found out recently she unfollowed me.

I was kind of upset because I overanalyzed it. I thought maybe it was my fault she unfollowed because maybe my page is boring? I hate getting rejected. Eventually I stopped letting it get to me, but how do I just not blame myself/overanalyze when these things happen?

[healingme4me]

I think where those in the limelight are concerned, they may have business managers that recommend who to follow and who not to follow? Most celebrities as a general rule of thumb don't"follow" back their fans. Not that it doesn't happen, I do have one up and coming actor and a local sports announcer/icon on my follows so I'd be bummed if that changed.
I do get how disappointing that would feel.
I think my son has one sports celeb so there's that 'so cool' factor, ya know?

Actors are just people... just like us... nothing special about them so don’t worry about not being followed by this person.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by KD1980

I decided to follow an actress on Instagram and to my surprise, she followed me back! I found out recently she unfollowed me.

I was kind of upset because I overanalyzed it. I thought maybe it was my fault she unfollowed because maybe my page is boring? I hate getting rejected. Eventually I stopped letting it get to me, but how do I just not blame myself/overanalyze when these things happen?

I wondered about this myself. My guess is your following her triggered her to follow you until she had the chance to look over your account to see if she really needed/wanted to follow you; once she determined she didn't, bingo you were unfollowed. It wasn't personal as much as business, is my guess.

Also, keep in mind that many celebrities, even very minor ones, have their social media 'done' by assistants. She may not have been directly involved in this incident.

Enjoy what you want from her public output and try not to worry about the rest. Working on improving your self-esteem will only help you with your hatred of rejection.

[KD1980]

Originally Posted by IceCreamKid

I wondered about this myself. My guess is your following her triggered her to follow you until she had the chance to look over your account to see if she really needed/wanted to follow you; once she determined she didn't, bingo you were unfollowed. It wasn't personal as much as business, is my guess.

Also, keep in mind that many celebrities, even very minor ones, have their social media 'done' by assistants. She may not have been directly involved in this incident.

Enjoy what you want from her public output and try not to worry about the rest. Working on improving your self-esteem will only help you with your hatred of rejection.

I was thinking this, my issue is that I immediately blamed myself for being possibly "boring" . She's not a famous person really, just fyi. She's in the business and she gets work, but she's not a household name. I have a feeling she probably doesn't have an assistant.

I wish my self esteem were higher.

[Thunder Bow]

This kind of thing happens to everyone on social media. It would be abnormal if it did not happen.

[KD1980]

Some people seem to be misunderstanding what my issue is. I'm not hurt that she unfollowed me, I'm wishing I could stop taking it personally and stop thinking there is something wrong with me.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((KD1980)))) Celebrities rarely have the time to read their fans' pages. She probably unfollowed a bunch of people along with you - It's unlikely it was anything you wrote. So try not to take it too personally, it happens quite often. Do you see a therapist? Maybe that could help you work on your self-esteem

[hvert]

I wish I had an answer for that for myself, too. I used to have a browser extension on FB to block ads and filter out stuff I didn't want to see. It also showed me who unfriended me. It used to drive me crazy when people I didn't even like that much or know all that well unfriended me. Why? What did I do? I really dislike that aspect of social media and my reaction to it.

[happysobercrafter]

Originally Posted by KD1980

Some people seem to be misunderstanding what my issue is. I'm not hurt that she unfollowed me, I'm wishing I could stop taking it personally and stop thinking there is something wrong with me.

Ok, KD1980,

When something is bothering me, like you saying you wish you could stop taking it personally and stop thinking there is something wrong with you, I look up articles on that subject. I read up on it, mull things over for a while.....You do what works for you, but I would do that. Look up articles on the topic I have questions about.

To get better, we have to learn new habits.

[Bill3]

I'm wishing I could stop taking it personally and stop thinking there is something wrong with me.

An option is to not try to stop these thoughts, but instead accept that they are there and go about your regular life anyways.

Such thoughts can be like that disagreeable relative who comes to family events and gets on my nerves. I cannot prevent them from coming, but I can learn to have a good time anyways.

People can reach their goals even in the presence of disagreeable thoughts and/or feelings. What if you notice those thoughts, acknowledge them in a civil but distant way, and then proceed with regular life?

[mote.of.soul]

Hello,

I'd just like to mention that there are a lot of fake accounts on social media too. People who make their profiles look just like the celebrity's that they're impersonating. They'll see that you follow the celebrity and then the fake one follows you back for whatever dodgy reason they have up their sleeve. It's my guess this impersonators account may have been reported and then removed, and so it appeared they unfollowed you. Or if it hasn't been removed, go and check to see if it's an authentic account. I doubt it is.

[wolfgaze]

You do not know this actress personally, and this actress does not know you personally... This business of following/unfollowing on social media sites - it should not be viewed in a personal light, rather it's superficial (on the surface).... Don't invest it with a 'seriousness' that it does not warrant nor deserve....

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by KD1980

I decided to follow an actress on Instagram and to my surprise, she followed me back! I found out recently she unfollowed me.

I was kind of upset because I overanalyzed it. I thought maybe it was my fault she unfollowed because maybe my page is boring? I hate getting rejected. Eventually I stopped letting it get to me, but how do I just not blame myself/overanalyze when these things happen?

I think it just a normal feeling of being reject. Sometimes celebrity rarely see what their fans write to them

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I think where those in the limelight are concerned, they may have business managers that recommend who to follow and who not to follow? Most celebrities as a general rule of thumb don't"follow" back their fans. Not that it doesn't happen, I do have one up and coming actor and a local sports announcer/icon on my follows so I'd be bummed if that changed.
I do get how disappointing that would feel.
I think my son has one sports celeb so there's that 'so cool' factor, ya know?

I completely agree with you!