[WpgMom]

I read a lot of posts from people who are lonely. It's weird because i feel the opposite. I am exhausted. I spent my whole life scrambling trying to keep everyone ok and everything together. Now i feel like if i never spoke to another person again i would have total peace.
Why can't everyone just do what they are supposed to do? I don't expect perfection, just a minimum basice amouñt. I have always done what is expected. What i am supposed to do.
I am tired of picking up everyone elses pieces. At work, at home, it never ends.

[continuosly blue]

Originally Posted by WpgMom

I read a lot of posts from people who are lonely. It's weird because i feel the opposite. I am exhausted. I spent my whole life scrambling trying to keep everyone ok and everything together. Now i feel like if i never spoke to another person again i would have total peace.
Why can't everyone just do what they are supposed to do? I don't expect perfection, just a minimum basice amouñt. I have always done what is expected. What i am supposed to do.
I am tired of picking up everyone elses pieces. At work, at home, it never ends.

You need a break. You need to just take care of yourself for awhile. You “ picking up after everyone “ is not helping those people. The slackers love people like you who they know will “ fix things “. Your right , it’s like nobody does what the heck they’re supposed to do. That makes you feel uncomfortable and therefore you try and make thing right. Your absolutely correct. If everyone just did what they are supposed to do the world would be a much better place. Stop trying to make everything “ right “. Do only what you can do . Just your share of responsibility.
Let others take some responsibility for what they don’t do or mess up. You don’t want to burn out and then what ? Take care of yourself.

[WpgMom]

Thanks. I know i am not the only one. I think i am about 8 years past burnt out. The "then what" is i only want to be alone. At this point i listen to podcasts, radio, or TV from the minute i wake up until the minute i lay down unless i am in a meeting. I never let myself alone with my thoughts. I bury myself in spreadsheets at work and have gone from 20 years ago being the overly cute, optomistic girl who was super social and organized every party to the crabby old lady in the office who will rip anyone a new one at a pin drop. 3-5 years to retirement. As for home, my husband was the typical self absorbed, high maintenance clueless male for years. He figured it out about 18 months ago and is now absolutely wonderful. I really appreciate how hard he worked to change but there is always this feeling just below the surface that if he ever regressed i am not prepared to hold everything together by myself ever again.
I really appreciaye this community. I don't feel like there is anywhere else i can be this honest. Thanks guys.

you will always have us (when ever you need us)

for the record: I agree with you. If I didn't talk to someone else again, I think I'd be greatful

people usually come with drama

drama usually comes with stress

stress usually comes with increased psymptoms

and so on...

[Medusax]

I feel you. I have no children, because I knew early on that I was not parental material. I have a small circle of good friends. I am lucky in THAT. But, one of my closest friends is an older man that I love dearly, but he can be very challenging. He is a Vietnam vet and has AO problems. he is on a million meds which I sort and keep for him.
He could be doing much better in life if he would watch his diet and get more rest. This bothers me to no end. I hate worry. Especially about someone who won't help themselves in a lot of ways. Then there are the people in your life that aren't personally involved with you but are there anyway; the boss, the co-workers, the people in official capacities that cause you to grit your teeth, etc. Days I am not at my awful job i just want to stay in the house and be left alone. But it seems I always have to deal with someone/something.

[MickeyCheeky]

I COMPLETELY understand what you mean, @WpgMom! Yes, it is understandable why you'd want to be left alone at least for a bit. Not everyone is a socially extorverted person after all! I COMPLETELY AGREE with ALL AND EVERYTHING that ALL the other WISE AND WONDERFUL POSTERS HAVE ALREADY BEAUTIFULLY, KINDLY, GENEROUSLY, CARINGLY, DEARLY, SWEETLY, INTELLIGENTLY AND WONDERFULLY SAID BETTER THAN I POSSIBLY EVER COULD IN MY ENTIRE AND WHOLE LIFE! I am REALLY HAPPY TO HEAR that your Husband is respecting your Wishes at least and that he'se respecting you and being kind to you! Just keep trying to do your best like you're already WONDERFULLY DOING ALL BY YOURSELF and hopefully things will get easier for you one way or another! You can also think about hiring a Therapist perhaps if the stress becomes too much to handle or perhaps even a Pdoc! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need someone to talk to or vent to or even some Advice And Support! I'LL TRY TO GET BACK AT YOU AS SOON AS I POSSIBLY CAN! I PROMISE YOU THAT! THAT'S A PROMISE! YOU CAN REST ASSURED OF THAT! I am SURE that PLENTY of others will also GLADLY, BEAUTIFULLY, KINDLY, CARINGLY, SWEETLY, DEARLY, DARLINGLY, CHARMINGLY, INTELLIGENTLY, SMARTLY AND WONDERFULLY HELP YOU OUT AS WELL IF YOU JUST ASK! I PROMISE YOU THAT! THAT'S A PROMISE! YOU CAN REST ASSURED OF THAT! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you and your Husband, @WpgMom, your Family, your Friends, your Therapists, your Pdocs and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK? PLEASE NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER GIVE UP HOPE NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS! KEEP IT UP! BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT AND YOU KNOW THAT'S ABSOLUTELY AND UNDENIABLY TRUE AS WELL EVEN IF IT'S DEEP DOWN INSIDE YOU! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING!

[bpcyclist]

I've not been to Winnipeg, but I think you should try to find someplace nice, maybe nearby, maybe not, to go for a long weekend away from everything. I agree with @continuously blue--you are in serious need of a break. Make it a priority. Just do it. Recharging some batteries might be just what you need.