Life Lessons and Boundaries

I don’t know if you necessarily want to give a vibe “don’t f with me”. People don’t usually like coworkers with that attitude. Confidence is important in all aspects of life but I believe we can still be kind and loving at work

I think it’s important to help each other at work. We do all the time but I think it’s important to examine why. If we help because it’s for the common good and benefits everyone and it’s give and take responsibility or because we are in a mentorship role etc then it’s all good. If we help others because we don’t know how to say “no” or we want to be liked and are people pleasers then it’s a problem.

In my experience certain type of people are disliked and are considered problematic in work environment.

Complainers (we have one who threatened to file grievances at least once weekly and was in the office with complains weekly, it was always something).

Bad team players (wouldn’t consult with a team and wouldn’t cooperate and wouldn’t care about team spirit, undermined others and only cared about how they come across) .

Lazy and unwilling to learn (always ask 1000 questions because they aren’t willing to learn and just want others to answer and do their job, they also never go above and beyond).

The ones that don’t accept responsibility (don’t take criticism and nothing is ever their fault).

Drama queens or kings (create or perpetuate drama)

Oh ok I thought maybe it’s helpful to recognize those personalities.

I think the way to deal with them is to remain strictly professional, focus on job tasks and maintain appropriate distance from them and not lose your cool.

We had someone written up at work once because she just couldn’t handle this difficult person (one that always complains) and lost her temper. At the end she got in trouble for losing her temper in response. I only know she was written up is because she is my friend at work, I’ve no idea if the difficult one faced same consequences

If the difficult personality is your boss all you could do is remain professional, focus on your task, keep your distance (when appropriate) and keep good documentation to cover yourself. I think. Not sure. I never really had difficult bosses but I had difficult coworkers. Distance and professional demeanor at all times is the way to go imho

Yesterday I was proud of a task. Due to many negative interactions with medical professionals and staff I always assume their anger, snarly attitude etc is all to do with me. I phoned my surgeons receptionist mentioning my swelling, do I need to come in., suggestions. She was slightly snarky and automatic response would be oh no its me.. If the other surgeon at your recent follow up was not concerned its probably nothing. She explained email her photos next week if not improved, she will show surgeon. I did not feel as anxious.