[black-roses]

I went to the doctor today and he saw me and also had time to see my mum apparently she has nodules on her thyroid a total of six one benign, and medium risk and on high risk. It's not cancer which is a relief but I worry about my mum because she has chronic health disorders and she is sleeping a lot and always so anxious. I can tell because she yells when she's anxious so what worries me is that she doesn't know how to deal with her anxiety and it's affecting her health. Also my dad is very cruel to her saying she's lazy but I know she's unwell and what frustrates me is she gets so upset over what my dad says when he's a sick person who clearly never deserved her or could appreciate her. To be honest he still talks about stuff that happened 20 years ago that I no longer care about. It frustrates me that she lets him upset her like I just tell her he never deserved you why do you care what he thinks. I think honestly my dad never valued her or could see her sacrifices so why does she care what he thinks? My dad is jealous because my sister goes to mum's house because his is dirty. However he never once gave thought about me how me and Daniela felt him creating problems. So why does she let him get to her. It just annoys me to be honest like I already saw her cry a lot growing up and still she doesn't understand that my dad never deserved her heart because she has the empathy he lacks? Honestly, what my mum should see it as is my dad is an angry vindictive person and she should just disregard it. I know it would hurt but I just hate seeing her waste her rants on someone that never valued her. It also makes me think that I'm not going to do what she done. I'm not going to beg for the minimum over people who don't even see my value.

[TheGal]

I'm so sorry to hear your mum has nodules on her thyroid. My mother does too and we were very stressed out about it, she had a biopsy then she went for a another scan and check up and asked the doctor was causes it and he said,"No one really knows. It's quite common." He said this in a nonchalant kind of manner. So we did a lot of worrying for nothing. We are still concerned, but our level of worry dropped by several notches. I'm not saying that that's your mum's case, but if you can go to the doctor with her and ask some questions and write down the answers. When does your mum have to go back? Mine is in a year from now.

It's also tragic that your dad is treating your mum so poorly. Stress can cause a lot of bodily functions to go out of whack. Did I understand correctly that that don't live together anymore?

Keep talking to your mum, maybe some of what you say will get through, but be gentle with her... you don't want to add to her stress.

Hugs, if wanted...

[Aviza]

My mom also has a nodule on her thyroid. Hers in inoperable because if they did she would be muted.

[black-roses]

Aww I'm sorry hugs.