[jesyka]

I think it’s obvious by now, but I’m going to say it anyways. I can’t handle stress well.

I loose my ability to focus & think the more stressed out I get. Right now my new job that I don’t like is obviously stressing me out.

So please take it easy on me if I ask the same questions or whatever.

I struggle with depression & anxiety with no support from anyone, not even a therapist anymore which is really hard.

So please don’t give me a hard time or judge me anymore, I’d appreciate that.

[unaluna]

Im sorry, i didnt mean to give you a hard time.

I was just trying to find an explanation for why you asked me to explain something, that i thought i had just explained to you, because i thought that might be happening at your job.

I can accept it happening here between you and me, no problem.

[divine1966]

If you can’t handle stress and fast pace and can’t keep up with learning the ropes, this isn’t a job for you. That’s why you need career counseling and vocational services. They’d find jobs that are suitable for your skills and abilities. They’re jobs I wouldn’t be able to do. I’d not go work those jobs.

You need to figure out what works for you and you need help with that.

[walkingthecow]

Originally Posted by jesyka

I think it’s obvious by now, but I’m going to say it anyways. I can’t handle stress well.

I loose my ability to focus & think the more stressed out I get. Right now my new job that I don’t like is obviously stressing me out.

So please take it easy on me if I ask the same questions or whatever.

I struggle with depression & anxiety with no support from anyone, not even a therapist anymore which is really hard.

So please don’t give me a hard time or judge me anymore, I’d appreciate that.

I've also struggled with depression and anxiety most of my life and have come to accept that some days are better than others. Today has been good. I found I dwell too much in the past and worry too much about the future when all I have is right now. Do you have any hobbies? or maybe you could listen to some music?


Well, as Eckhardt Tolle says, "All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now and at ease with yourself."

Be easy on yourself okay?

[AzulOscuro]

It’s up to you if you only want to take a tap on your back. But, you’re not going to find only this out there.
Moreover, you’re not one of those who tap others’ backs. You’re asking for something you are not ready to do.
You’re free to hide your head in the ground but this is only a run away.
As much as you ask, you’re not gonna get just exactly what you want from others because these others are free. You can’t change anything or anyone but yourself.

***** Sure, this is gonna be deleted, I’m gonna be told off by a moderator. FREEDOM OF SPEECH. One of the most stepped rights.

[AzulOscuro]

To begin with. A person shouldn’t be worried about which kind of input they received in a online site.
This is to start with. You can’t depend on what others do or say.

Originally Posted by jesyka

I think it’s obvious by now, but I’m going to say it anyways. I can’t handle stress well.

I loose my ability to focus & think the more stressed out I get. Right now my new job that I don’t like is obviously stressing me out.

So please take it easy on me if I ask the same questions or whatever.

I struggle with depression & anxiety with no support from anyone, not even a therapist anymore which is really hard.

So please don’t give me a hard time or judge me anymore, I’d appreciate that.

Sorry to read that your current job isn't a good fit for you. I sympathize because when I've had jobs that didn't fit my personality or lifestyle or financial basic needs, I experienced chronic anxiety and stress.

I hope you can find a better job soon. Sending you virtual hugs. Try not to take anything at that horrible job personally. Just reassure yourself that you're there to earn a paycheck while you seek a better job meant for you. I've been there more times than I can remember, so I know how you feel. Hang in there.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by divine1966

If you can’t handle stress and fast pace and can’t keep up with learning the ropes, this isn’t a job for you. That’s why you need career counseling and vocational services. They’d find jobs that are suitable for your skills and abilities. They’re jobs I wouldn’t be able to do. I’d not go work those jobs.

You need to figure out what works for you and you need help with that.

It’s not the right job for me, so it’s just something I tolerate for now for extra money. If my husband wasn’t so cheap & controlling, I wouldn’t need to work at a back breaking demeaning job that makes my fibromyalgia worse.

I’m stuck working retail jobs at timed as most places won’t hire me since I don’t have any computer skills or any good people skills. Retail jobs tend to always be hiring as they’re horrible jobs with low pay.

I have tried learning computers three times but failed to do do as it’s hard. The classes were confusing & to fast paced, so I dropped out of two of them. I got certificates in the first one. That was more basic stuff like typing & C.S stuff.

As I said before, I think I have some severe learning disability. I can’t learn anything quickly. Or maybe I’m just stupid as I seem to misunderstand people & get easily confused often. It takes me forever to learn anything new.

And anything I learn is quickly forgotten if I don’t use what I learn often.

It’s like learning Spanish & not speaking it for years. Does that make any sense to you? It’d be a waste of time for me to get training anywhere if the class or the teacher does everything at a fast pace.

Most places do. I can’t keep up. No one will slow down just for me. I can only get do much tutoring after class too.

I just need to find a very easy simple low stress repetitive job to where I can work by myself mostly & not deal with people that much. I’m going to look into pet sitting.

My friend does door dash now. I’ll look into that. She says it’s easy. The only issue is finding apartment addresses at times, but she can text customers or doordash for help.

They switched me to the floor at work thankfully. I wasn’t scheduled for next week yet, so maybe they’re letting me go before I quit, idk.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by Motts

Sorry to read that your current job isn't a good fit for you. I sympathize because when I've had jobs that didn't fit my personality or lifestyle or financial basic needs, I experienced chronic anxiety and stress.

I hope you can find a better job soon. Sending you virtual hugs. Try not to take anything at that horrible job personally. Just reassure yourself that you're there to earn a paycheck while you seek a better job meant for you. I've been there more times than I can remember, so I know how you feel. Hang in there.

Sorry to hear that happened to you too. Most work places are hostile to people with disabilities. Thanks. I had hope going in. Maybe I wouldve had a chance if my coworkers were willing to train me.

At the very least, they could’ve been civil & polite even if they didn’t like me. One rude supervisor snapped at me after I asked him what time the store opens.

I didn’t hear him the first time as it was loud in the area. I was talking to a customer on the phone. I didn’t notice him talking to anyone else like that. Rude! I felt like he singkef me out. He accused me of taking unauthorized breaks too. He talked down to me like I was a moron too.

I reported him to my supervisor who is nice. Unfortunately my husband thinks that I ‘overreacted’ & am going to get myself fired by complaining about people.

So it’s OK for them to disrespect me then? Ugh! I doubt that my husband would put up with that b.s ironically, lol.

I think that they might let me go soon as I wasn’t scheduled for the following week. I was going to quit anyways.

[jesyka]

Originally Posted by AzulOscuro

To begin with. A person shouldn’t be worried about which kind of input they received in a online site.
This is to start with. You can’t depend on what others do or say.

Try mouthing off to the wrong person & see where your freedom of speech gets you one day, lol. Try to be less rude from now on. I’m putting you on the ignore list for trolling. I’m going through a hard time now. I don’t need your judgemental attitude.

Originally Posted by jesyka

I just need to find a very easy simple low stress repetitive job to where I can work by myself mostly & not deal with people that much. I’m going to look into pet sitting.

My friend does door dash now. I’ll look into that. She says it’s easy. The only issue is finding apartment addresses at times, but she can text customers or doordash for help.

I would think twice about that door dash thing. Earlier this year, my car broke down and was tied up at a shop for a month because it needed a lot of work. Instead of renting a car, I decided to order groceries online. I think that service was contracted through door dash. I was not happy with it. The biggest gripe I had was, when I made the orders, at least a few items I wanted were not available. So I ended up ordering something else that cost more. And some food items I received seemed to be of bad quality.

Aside from that, it was a lot more expensive than going out shopping myself, which I preferred anyways. I would say that it cost about 30% more (while the items had normally cost about $100, the same items went for $130). Each item cost more in itself plus I had to pay a service charge and a tip fee. If you are going to look into it with your friend, be sure to find out as much as you can about it. Maybe in your area, it might be better than what I experienced, or maybe not. If it's not, then you'll probably be in for a nightmare that would be worse than where you are now.

The pet-sitting sounds pretty good, in my opinion. Look into that one and find out if it can be right for you. I'm sorry for what you're going through and I've been though some nightmarish jobs in the past myself. Best to you.

Originally Posted by jesyka

Sorry to hear that happened to you too. Most work places are hostile to people with disabilities. Thanks. I had hope going in. Maybe I wouldve had a chance if my coworkers were willing to train me.

At the very least, they could’ve been civil & polite even if they didn’t like me. One rude supervisor snapped at me after I asked him what time the store opens.

I didn’t hear him the first time as it was loud in the area. I was talking to a customer on the phone. I didn’t notice him talking to anyone else like that. Rude! I felt like he singkef me out. He accused me of taking unauthorized breaks too. He talked down to me like I was a moron too.

I reported him to my supervisor who is nice. Unfortunately my husband thinks that I ‘overreacted’ & am going to get myself fired by complaining about people.

So it’s OK for them to disrespect me then? Ugh! I doubt that my husband would put up with that b.s ironically, lol.

I think that they might let me go soon as I wasn’t scheduled for the following week. I was going to quit anyways.

Sounds like a very toxic workplace, from my own experience with such a place. Doesn't matter the type of job - the people are toxic so the work environment becomes toxic.

I think your husband is not supportive to you emotionally at all. If he were truly sympathetic, he'd be on your side and help you find a good job and be more emotionally supportive.

It sounds like you're in my situation with work - you're not in your ideal job but a transitional job, so that you can make ends meet to pay the bills, while you try to find that ideal job.

When people are in our shoes, who have transitional jobs, life sucks. We're forced to do jobs we despise, with people who don't support us (they project their own issues onto us, b/c they disrespect other people).

All I can advise you is to remove 100% of your emotions as soon as you walk through the office door. Just don't internalize ANYTHING anyone (nice or mean) directs at you. Just smile and stay silent. Don't engage. Just show up and perform your work tasks and go home. That's what I do. Until I can find my dream job. I put up with a lot of silliness from people around me until I can find "the" job b/c I have to pay my rent, my car, car insurance, student loans, groceries, cat food, electricity, cable/internet and cell phone etc.

You are not alone. There are millions of people like you and me doing this b/c we have to; not because we want to. Just ignore everything anyone tells you that attacks your character etc. and just deflect it.

[Have Hope]

I hear you and want to validate your feelings. I know all too well the feeling of feeling judged and being given a hard time. Take it easy on yourself and give yourself a lot of credit for making the move to get a job. If it's not the right fit, then I'd say try and find a better fit for yourself. We're here for you.

[Discombobulated]

I definitely think you should be proud of getting yourself back into the workplace- it’s no small thing and it’s stressful too. I’m not sure people who haven’t got a sizeable employment gap quite realise the effect it can have on a person. Well done on hanging on through a challenging couple of weeks!