[Frankz]

I feel so lonely! I hate the feeling. I feel like no one's there for me. A while ago me and a friend were SUPER close..I mean I helped her through alot and she did the same for me...Anyway, lately I've noticed we've not talked as much, we aren't as close, and she's making new friends....I mean I hate to sound clingy but I think I just might be...because I love her so much...By all means I'm happy for her to be around new people, because for a while she was a bit depressed...and the sad thing about it is that we had just about the same issues..surprisingly..same type of family stuff...friend issues, hating school, all that. We're both teased in school and for a while she was the only person I could turn to...she even helped me stop cutting..and THAT can be a hard thing to do...She helped me through so so much..and if we ever drift apart it'll just kill me... Is there anything I can do to feel batter? Ugh I feel like so much crap.....

[thinker22]

I miss my best friend too. I haven't heard from her in almost a year. She doesn't return phone calls (and I've only tried 3 times, spread over that stretch) or emails (maybe 3-4 times). I know it's just her way, out of sight, out of mind, but it hurts me and her other friends. She didn't even acknowledge my birthday last week and still hasn't and it was a big one. I called her for hers...had to leave a message.

Probably she's trying to distance herself from her past and is making new friends without me as I notice from pics on facebook. I really felt like I needed her up through my early 20s, but now I'm getting used to the idea of making other friends and moving on. I thought it would kill me too to let her go. I don't even think she hates me or is purposely ignoring me. I just can't deal with the silence, so I'm trying to not have it hurt so much.

It still does hurt like it does for you with your friend. I used to be clingy and thought that was the problem, but I haven't been that way in 5 yrs and this is still the way she is. I guess I've lowered my expectations from her to survive emotionally. That's about the only advice I have besides telling her you miss her and would like to see her a little more often. Sorry you're feeling lonely. At least we have PC peeps.

[Frankz]

Originally Posted by thinker22

I miss my best friend too. I haven't heard from her in almost a year. She doesn't return phone calls (and I've only tried 3 times, spread over that stretch) or emails (maybe 3-4 times). I know it's just her way, out of sight, out of mind, but it hurts me and her other friends. She didn't even acknowledge my birthday last week and still hasn't and it was a big one. I called her for hers...had to leave a message.

Probably she's trying to distance herself from her past and is making new friends without me as I notice from pics on facebook. I really felt like I needed her up through my early 20s, but now I'm getting used to the idea of making other friends and moving on. I thought it would kill me too to let her go. I don't even think she hates me or is purposely ignoring me. I just can't deal with the silence, so I'm trying to not have it hurt so much.

It still does hurt like it does for you with your friend. I used to be clingy and thought that was the problem, but I haven't been that way in 5 yrs and this is still the way she is. I guess I've lowered my expectations from her to survive emotionally. That's about the only advice I have besides telling her you miss her and would like to see her a little more often. Sorry you're feeling lonely. At least we have PC peeps.

Thank you so much for that. I think my day will be alot better because of that message, you know what I'm going through. And yes, PC peeps are awesome =]].

[darkpurplesecrets]

((((Frankz))))

Sorry you are feeling so alone. Sometimes losing someone has nothing to do with you. She is probably not really realizing what she is doing to you. I had a best friend in High School. We drifted apart for years and now we are communicating again. We never even knew why we drifted apart but after years of not talking, we were sorry it happened. It took reaching out after losing one another but we do talk now.

I know it can be really hard and the aloneness you feel is real. I am sorry you are feeling this way. But I hope you will find lots of friends and support here. I thank you for sharing and for reaching out. I am sorry you are feeling so alone and I can understand hating those feelings. Know that we care and are here to listen and support you in anyway we can.

There are many times I still feel alone and coming here helps with the support and friends I have made. It seems someone always understands what I am feeling and that makes it not feel so alone. I hope you will continue to post and share. Know we are listening and do care.

dps