[bridgie]

Its actually nothing yet. I'm supposed to have our first date in one week. My first in 3 years. I'm scared that I'm already a no. Today we chatted and I had to stop so I cld cry. And cry and cry. And now I'm not sure I even want to go out and show this person I'm a big blubbery baby. I'm starting to read into everything that he says. Anything that says to me I don't think you are good enuff. And believe me have found a few. I realize I may not allow it to happen so I dnt have to show this side of myself. Noone wants a sad friend. Maybe I shldnt even try. U c actually the closer it gets the sadder I get just in case it dsn work out then I'm already dwn. I wish I cld just be normal and happy instead of depressed and sometimes manic. I've failed at all previous attempts I feel like I've already failed at this one and we haven't even had a first date. I'm scared. I'm very scared bcz talking we get along so so well.

[Naturefreak]

Just be yourself Bridgie
If he's really interested in you and rejects you because of your health issues , then he wasn't meant to be .
You are who you are , and you can't make someone love you.
Good luck and take care.

[depressedalaskan]

Be yourself..

[lorna]

You can do this. Not being out there so long, will make it hard. As well your anxiety too may challenge this. But do your best, You can do this, and there is really nothing to loose. Best wishes Lorna

[marvin_pa]

with everyone else. Be yourself. I fail to follow my own advice frequently enough to know that's way easier said than done, especially the 1st time you meet somebody, but just try to be as relaxed as you can about it. Remember, he may well have the same kind of doubts about himself. It's hard, but try not to read too much from on-line/phone conversations - they lack so many of the other subtle cues that only come from meeting in person. You seem to be getting on well so far, so take that as a positive & see what happens. Wishing you luck, but you don't need luck - just for the right pair of hearts to meet.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by marvin_pa

...try not to read too much from on-line/phone conversations - they lack so many of the other subtle cues that only come from meeting in person.

Truth.

[googley]

I know it can be hard to meet new people. But even if you doubt yourself, what do you have to lose? If it doesn't work out (for whatever reason, maybe he likes the Yankees and you like the Red Sox) then you have spent an evening with this guy. But if it does work out then you can gain so much more. I do agree though, that the first jump can be the scariest. Take care and I hope all goes well.