How to help depressed husband?

My husband is depressed because of some problems I've had. I was raped a few months before we got married and our seemingly perfect relationship before hand fell apart. I have gotten help for what's happened to me, but the side effects of it seems to be still affecting my husband. I don't know what to do for him. I don't know if I should get back into therapy or find a new therapist for the both of us. He is worried about the cost, I say who cares about the cost? I don't know what to do. How can I help?

have you talked to him about it?

you're right there should be no issue about cost but are you sure that this is his real issue with going to therapy as a couple?

He has to want to get help for anything to help. perhaps what you really need is to sit down as a couple and just talk about things. it isn't an easy subject so i'm guessing that you haven't had that talk yet.

I know very little about such things, but I think therapists refer to someone like your husband as a "secondary survivor" of rape. You might use that phrase to search PsychCentral or the Web in general and see what you can find.

Crimes and tragedies rarely have but one victim. I wish you (singular) and you (plural) hope and healing

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((((9ashley8787)))) Therapy is probably a good idea but for it to help both parties have to be truly honest. I also agree with Rohag crime has more than just one victim. Looking around the web and seeing what you can find is a good idea. I also agree with lotusflames cost should not be a factor, if one of you had to be rushed to the hospital for anything else there would be no thought of the cost. Good luck - hugs for your day.

If you check around someone might to counsler on a sliding scale.

I know it's a major issue for you,

and for your husband - maybe he feels like he can't help, so he feels helpless.

I'm just throwing that out there