[Miss_A]

Two weeks back a boy said to me "F*** off you immergrant!" I didn't even say anything to make him say that. He use to be someone I liked as a person. (not a friend) Then it was the harshes thing to say to anyone, right to there face. Then I replied "Why did you say that because I'm not." Then he said " I dunno, oh well!" It really made me believe that I shouldn't have been born. No one has ever said that to me before right to me. Then I rest my head lying on the table crying, because the way he said that hurt more than the word. Mostly his expressions on his face said it all. I didn't tell te teacher about it. But his mates fell out over it. So he doesn't have many friends anymore. He did say sorry but it was an unlikely I didn't mean it thing to him. The other day I stayed in bed until I had no option left to go to school. I don't talk to him anymore. Why he said that, I will never know? Did he meant that well he's always been a little bit harsher to different kinds of people in the world! I take some things to heart and this went to my brain saying that I don't belong here. I will try to let go of what he told me. But then I will learn to trust people in life who respect me for who I am! One day he will realise that mistake that he should have not said. But now he only cares about himself. Disapointed with choosing to believe him in the first place. But after I had a little panic attack and couldn't stop breathing in and out so fast for 10 minutes waiting for the bus to come and pick me up to go home. Has anyone felt the same before or is it just me because I am DIFFERENT? (ps: dunno what topic this would be u as, but I know it made me depressed for a couple of days and still makes me feel abit upset now and again.)

[silver_queen]

I'm not sure where you live - do you come from London? maybe you should report him to your headteacher or to your form teacher for making a racist remark. I'm glad he didn't find acceptance among his friends for saying that to you anyway.

[jmo531]

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[Wants2Fly]

I'm sorry that happened to you. It must hurt very much, indeed. I agree that racism should be reported.

Be aware, too, that boys can be odd creatures as their hormones come into full swing. As they start to have soft feelings for someone, esp. a "girl," at the same time that their hormones are telling them to "act like a man," they may run away from those soft feelings to the point of acting hard and harsh.

These feelings as we are involved in our first romantic attachments can be very strong and confusing. I don't envy you. I am glad all that emotional mayhem has leveled out for me -- even though sometimes I miss the roller-coaster excitement of it.

Do try to get busy with something you enjoy. Perhaps crafts activities with a club at a church or community center? A after-school group? Something to keep your mind occupied and your hands busy.

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[wi_fighter]

A, if you are being harrassed, you need to report it to your school counselor, or someone you trust. I know it's hard. My daughter is your age and sometimes she'd rather endure the abuse than put up with the taunting once people find out she's said something.

No one deserves to be ridiculed and the people doing the hurtful behavior need to know it's not acceptable. Just because this boy was someone you liked as a person before, it doesn't make it right that he's calling you names now.

I hope you can be brave and let a grown up know what's happening.

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[Miss_A]

It's just now I feel guilty for something I didn't do. Yea he did deserve it by his mates now not likeing him. Why did he say that is all I want to know? I can't believe he pretended to be nice to me! Now he hangs around with some other boys, but then again I see him on his own. I always see him but I don't talk to him anymore. He always looks at me and I kind of give a not so happy look on my face. Huhhhhhh... I guess that he never liked me in the first place?

[(JD)]

I'm sure, too, that that made you feel bad. Some ppl are just plain rude and uncaring. Other ppl, like some of us here, don't always mean what is said, or have not control like they might want to... if the shoe DOESN'T fit, don't wear it! Let it be their problem, not yours.

[Miss_A]

Ok, I will try to let it go just it's hard when you see him most of the weeks at school; Plus lessons I have with him.