[la333]

HI;

How do you cope with a guy rejecting you, when you really liked him and you can't stop obssesing about him becuase you have OCD. I liked him at first, only as a friend but started to eventualy like him more. The last time I saw him, he was really showing off about how great his life was and made it clear he didn't like me by mentioning famous girls he likes. I blame myself, as I feel he just got bored of me, as my life is not as interesting as his. I just feel pathetic, humiliated and alone.

[Berries]

Be gentle with yourself. Don't berate yourself for obessing about him. Just let the thoughts come into your mind without judging them. Then try and add other thoughts, thoughts other than him or your problems.
Most important thing is don't feel bad that you can't stop thinking about him, you have OCD and it's not your fault.
Take Care.

Welcome to PC!

[turquoisesea]

I'm not sure what to do about obsessive thoughts about him but I DO know you are not pathetic just because he does not like you.

Lets take Girl #1 - she's flocked over by pretty much everyone, gorgeous as anyone. But Guy A doesn't like her as much as Girl #2, who is less popular. Why? Because people are DIFFERENT. Maybe this guy isn't right for you (he might be GREAT but he isn't pulled by you right now). Maybe there's a guy who's pulled to you like a super magnet. Regardless, YOU are NOT pathetic because this ONE guy isn't interested

[lynn09]

Welcome to PC, la333! I like what both Berries and turquoisesea said. I don't know much about OCD, but what Berries said made me think - can you substitute one set of thoughts for another? If you can't stop the obsessive thoughts because of the OCD, can you redirect the obsession? Instead of obsessing about him and how he feels about you, can you focus instead on what kind of people you want in your life? Why should you feel like you are to blame? Why should you feel pathetic and humiliated? Sounds to me like he is very rude and shallow to have treated you that way - I would be more likely to view him as not living up to MY standards - not being qualified to join MY club. By all means, be gentle with yourself - it's bad enough to have someone treat you badly without you helping them by berating yourself, too.

[In_The_Darkness]

Welcome to PC!!!

[Lboogieg]

Oh la333...I feel the hell outta you! I cannot tell you how closely I can relate to this!! You're hurt is my hurt hun, because I've been rejected in almost the exact same fashion and I feel just as alone as you do. I liked my guy friends (for me it's two guys) as friends at first, then I started catching feelings 'cause they were so sweet to me! They didn't like that too much though (the only like me as a friend), and now it's almost like I'm dead to them 'cause they don't talk to me anymore.

Honestly, I think I'm a little OCD too and I can't help but obsess over these guys. I told you I can relate closely to this. Unfortunately, since I'm going through the exact same thing and haven't found a solution there isn't much advice I can give you. I'm holding on; it's annoying as hell, but I'm beginning to let them both go.

I think the only thing you can do is to do some things that make you feel good and try to put him behind you. It's hard as hell for me to do, but what other choice do you have? There's no way you can make him feel anything, so it's best to try your best and find someone else. We both have to move on from these a-holes in our lives. I hate when people tell me this, by the way, lol.

Since I can relate so closely to this, feel free to message me anytime. Hope you feel better!

[billieJ]

Originally Posted by la333

HI;

How do you cope with a guy rejecting you, when you really liked him and you can't stop obssesing about him becuase you have OCD. I liked him at first, only as a friend but started to eventualy like him more. The last time I saw him, he was really showing off about how great his life was and made it clear he didn't like me by mentioning famous girls he likes. I blame myself, as I feel he just got bored of me, as my life is not as interesting as his. I just feel pathetic, humiliated and alone.

This is just a thought, but I can't think why he would mention famous girls he likes unless he was trying to impress you. I don't see that as a sign that he doesn't like you. billieJ

[la333]

Hi there! I know this is a very late reply. I just wanted to thank you and the rest of you kind users for taking the time to reply, for the warm welcome and kindness!
To Lboogieg I hope things are going better for you and you've managed to move on from these guys.
I on the other hand seem to still be thinking about him unfortunately. I try not to, as life goes on and you have to move on but when you like somebody, it's hard as hell some times to let go. Especially when you live near them and are afraid to see them with somebody else, which is in my case. He hasn't bothered to contact me in a month now and I just keep thinking I did something wrong. How do you just accept the reality when your alone and can't move on? Well this is enough ranting for me. Feel free to spill your heart out and I will try to reply to you all a.s.a.p. hope your well and take care

[la333]

Hi there! I know this is a very late reply. I just wanted to thank you and the rest of you kind users for taking the time to reply, for the warm welcome and kindness!

[lonegael]

la333, I really felt for you when I read this. I think this guy has done you a favor by leaving, dear. His behavior is immature, and with a take on life that he seems to have, I don't think he could handle a verbal, smart, sensitive girl like you who is probably far more mature than he is because of all you have had to deal with. HE is missing out, dear. Just because he knows all these "famous" girls, doesn't mean that he's gained anything. Many famous people (My sister in law lives in a neighborhood where a lot of celebrities live) aren't really great people to know or have to do with. You on the other hand seem to be. Hang onto that and wish him good luck