[mark0529]

Im 28 and i feel like my life is ruined. I basically had it all and ruined it. I let stress and anxiety eat me up and I ruined a great relationship and set myself back career wise and I feel so lost and hopeless in the world. I do not know what to do anymore I feel like I can't deal with the day in and day out struggle I live in. I constantly dwell on the past and the bad choices i've made that led me into this hole I'm in. i feel so defeated and worthless and that world is going on and I'm stuck in yesteryear wishing and going through the if onlys and constantly beating myself up for my poor choices I've made. I just wish I could feel hopeful and let go of what I lost but it haunts me and there seems to be no end in site for it. They say time heals but it seems that it gets worse every day I just need to find some hope but I don't know what to do anymore.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Mark0529! I'm glad you found the site. I hope it proves useful and uplifting to you.

Originally Posted by mark0529

...i feel like my life is ruined. I basically had it all and ruined it.

Personal Philosophy (no need to agree): The only way a person can ruin their life is by surrendering to despair and taking it.

Originally Posted by mark0529

...I feel so lost and hopeless in the world. I do not know what to do anymore I feel like I can't deal with the day in and day out struggle I live in.

Good. No, it's not "good" that you feel lost and hopeless, but it's good you acknowledge you are feeling lost and hopeless.

I believe your spirit is telling you that you need help, and there's no shame in seeking help. I hope your situation allows you to seek professional help (counsel, therapy, medical). If that is not currently possible, seek informal help (you've already started that by coming here).

Originally Posted by mark0529

...I'm stuck in yesteryear...

Maybe this can serve as a starting point - getting unstuck from yesteryear, finding ways to reground and redefine yourself in the present.

Mark, please feel free to post as much as you want. Many listening hearts are here, and maybe a few of them will have the right words for you.

[FeelingHopeful]

Aww Mark! I feel that way alot too, That I made alot of mistakes and Lost The most precious things in my life but we have to keep fighting, theres always tomorrow and maybe if we take little steps at a time, we can rebuild our relationships and things have to turn around right?? Im always here to listen friend, So post away, this site is wonderful and everyone is supportive of each other, its a family here, We care about you.

[1flagwriter]

Originally Posted by mark0529

Im 28 and i feel like my life is ruined. I basically had it all and ruined it. I let stress and anxiety eat me up and I ruined a great relationship and set myself back career wise and I feel so lost and hopeless in the world. I do not know what to do anymore I feel like I can't deal with the day in and day out struggle I live in. I constantly dwell on the past and the bad choices i've made that led me into this hole I'm in. i feel so defeated and worthless and that world is going on and I'm stuck in yesteryear wishing and going through the if onlys and constantly beating myself up for my poor choices I've made.

and let go of what I lost but it haunts me and there seems to be no end in site for it. They say time heals but it seems that it gets worse every day I just need to find some hope but I don't know what to do anymore.

You can!!! What you are feeling sounds like Major Depression! You really need to see a professional. This will only get worse. Depression is serious and DOES NOT get better with time. It is dangerous left untreated. Please believe me. I may not have a PhD, but I have 38 years of experience!

Be good to yourself and remember, we are here 24/7 if you need to chat.