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#1
Mar 21, 2010, 07:39 AM
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i feel frustrated and tied down.....by my husband, my job and just life in general....i feel like i want to bust out of these invisible chains and just go running wild down the street and do things i'm not supposed to be wanting to do! i am so dissatisified with my life! i just want to go away to a place and be alone and have NO reponsibilities! i have given and given and given, i feel like i'm all used up and have nothing left to give anyone. i HATE these feelings! and why are they coming up all of a sudden? why can't they just go away and i can get back to my life! i thought i was doing pretty good about keeping it hidden....but i really think my husband is suspicious....i don't know. i'm so frustrated!
   
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Mar 21, 2010, 08:26 AM
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Hello, brt911. Why are you trying to hide how you feel from your husband? Why are you not seeking professional help to get through this?
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Mar 21, 2010, 10:18 AM
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I agree with Byzantine. It sounds like you need to work on communicating with your husband. Not necessarily because he has to change, but just so he can be aware of where you are coming from and can help you get some help. Sometimes talking to a therapist/counselor can help you process through the mixed bag of feelings you have. If your husband is willing you may even consider marital counseling to help you guys start working as a team again. Hang in there
 Let us know how you are doing.
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Mar 22, 2010, 12:23 PM
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Quote:
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"The only normal people are the one's you don't know very well." -Dr. Alfred Adler, Father of Individual Psychology http://www.trans4mind.com/mind-development/adler.html |
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Mar 22, 2010, 01:00 PM
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What is making you feel tied down specifically? You mention your husband, your job, etc. what about those makes you have these feelings. What are some examples of the things you want to do that you don't think you should?
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Mar 22, 2010, 03:23 PM
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 Hi brt911. You say that you are dissatisfied with your life, yet it sounds like you think you are just supposed to repress your feelings and put on a good show for everyone. That is no way to live. Those feelings of being drained, frustrated, and wanting to bust out, etc., sound like your "fight or flight" instincts have been activated. Those feelings are going to keep coming up stronger and stronger until you do something about your situation because your mind is telling you that regardless of how you and your life may appear to others, you are not happy or satisfied - you are not getting a beneficial return on your investment of time and energy. I, too, would strongly encourage you to get in touch with a therapist to help you sort things out, find out why you feel this way, and help you find ways to improve your situation for yourself and your family. If you keep repressing and denying those feelings the pressure may eventually cause you to bust out of your chains in a not-so-beneficial way, and there's no need to allow things to get that far. Hope you are feeling better soon. lynn09
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Mar 23, 2010, 08:52 PM
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hey there, I agree with several posters that perhaps hiding this from your husband is something that needs to change.
It is HARD hiding something that is apart of you every second of every day. It's a mask that's hard to keep up. I think it's important to be able to let go and be honest with yourself and someone you trust about what you're feeling. gentle hugs and best wishes
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Mar 23, 2010, 09:13 PM
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I understand wanting to appear like one is normal when one isn't but I have found that fosters more resentment and anger. Which in turn causes me to do things in a big destructive way and then people really know that I'm mental! It was hard in the beginning of my relationship with my husband to be normal and not let him know but when I lost my cookies one night and the law had to be called, the charade was over. It has take a few years of a lot of heart to heart conversations, tears, tantrums and hissy fits with my beloved to make him understand about the inner me. I couldn't ask for a better person to be by my side when no one else has been. I'm with turquoisesea on the gentle hugs. Keep the faith.
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#9
Mar 24, 2010, 03:04 PM
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How are you doing, brt911?
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