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Mar 26, 2010, 12:08 PM
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My father was buried yesterday. A memorial service or rather a celebration of his life will be a month or so from now. I am totally burned out now both physically and emotionally. I am spending this day at home trying to recuperate. Two of my sisters are at my mother's house now. I do not need to be concerned about my mother for this day. I was especially concerned on the night he died. I knew I would be the only one there who would make a point of supporting her emotionally. My third sister who was there; I did not expect to emotionally support her. My brother in law supported her by doing things for her, but I doubted he would be willing to give her a big hug afterwards. My two sisters can help Momma out in this way today, and I will go back out there tomorrow. Hopefully I can energize myself enough to be there for her when my sisters leave.
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Mar 26, 2010, 12:19 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Mar 26, 2010, 12:22 PM
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(((Leacon)))
 so sorry for your loss. I know that feeling of being totally drained after a death. Take care of yourself and get your strength back.
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Mar 26, 2010, 12:58 PM
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Mar 26, 2010, 01:13 PM
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(((((((((leacon))))))))))
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Mar 26, 2010, 01:29 PM
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(((((Leacon))))))
Do take good care of yourself, let yourself grieve-it is important to do so. I hope you find the strength needed to support your mom but dont forget about yourself. |
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Mar 26, 2010, 03:43 PM
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You need to make sure you take care of yourself as well. You can't help others if you have a breakdown, so easy to overlook that in times like what you are going through.
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Mar 26, 2010, 03:47 PM
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I'm sorry to here of your family's loss. I'm afraid the frog of little brain has no wise wisdom to share. When my mother passed last year there were of times of pain. Luckily she lived a long and fulfilling life. And not many tears.
When a close family member dies those who are naturally strong help weak deal with the healing. I'm glad you are there to help your family. It's not easy being the only one in the family who is there for support. Kebs
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Mar 26, 2010, 06:11 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss.
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Mar 26, 2010, 07:57 PM
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My condolences.
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Mar 26, 2010, 10:43 PM
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Please try to look after yourself as well as your mum. I will be thinking of you.
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Mar 26, 2010, 11:09 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss and sending hugs
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Mar 26, 2010, 11:14 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my father two years ago and couldn't get out of bed for weeks afterward, so I know how draining it is to be the supportive, strong one. Give yourself time to grieve too.
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Mar 27, 2010, 03:51 AM
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Leacon, I am sorry for your loss.
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Mar 27, 2010, 05:19 AM
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((((((((((((((((((leacon)))))))))))))))))))))). I'm so sorry about your father, and offer you my admiration for fighting the fatigue that such things can cause to be a comfort to your Mom. I recall when my own Mom died in 2002 and the horrible bus trip over 400 miles to meet with Dad and pick up her things in the nursing home. Loss of a parent can be one of the strangest, sadest and most conflictual and numbing of experiences, even when faith in a "better place" is strong. Love to You and Your Mom. And know that time heals - it truly does. billieJ
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