[idk y]

turns out my mom doesn't actualy think i need counseling and is just doing it for appearences....plus she has convinced my doctor that I am a fat lazy ***** who has nothing better to do then to get more and more fat....I had just accepted who I am and how I look then my doctor goes and tells me that I'm obese and need to lose wait so I can be normal. I weigh 173 and suppossedly am suppossed to be 120....it's mostly from muscle too! I mean yeah my thighs are a little big from swimming team and I do have a little bit of a belly but she has no right to call me obese! Besides, my stomach has gone down 6 inches in the last year....God....I feel even worse now....I don't know why I let people get to me....I mean, I know I am doing better, but it just kind of gets to you you know? It just gets to you when you hear everyone calling you obese

[Rohag]

Argh.

• On the swim team
• Dances, acts
• Lost six inches in the past year

Did the doctor even address your general health and conditioning?

I'm so sorry you are being subjected to this. Is the way you look more about your health or how you reflect on your family?

Story: My son, now an adult, entered his teen years overweight. With growing independence, he emerged from his teen years lean and trim.

In my experience, issues of weight/general health and mental health can't really be addressed effectively without managing them both together.

You may be a teenager, Idk y, but you may have to be the far-seeing adult here.

(I'm sorry; I'm writing this post saddened and angered by the words and sentiments cast at you.)

[idk y]

actually, i USED to be on the swim team. I was just on it for so long my legs are still a little big. There smaller then what they used to be but still. No, the doctor didn't adress anything except for the fact that I am fat and my cholesterol is too high (which i know that part is true). So basically she told my mom i have to walk 10,000 steps a day for the next three weeks then come back and HOPEFULLY i would have lost enough weight to be NORMAL.

[1flagwriter]

I love you just the way you are!!!!!!!!

[Blackwolf]

What is normal?? I mean who makes the rules of what is normal?? You are you, you are not your mom, or your doctor.

[Hippie]

Hugs to you!! I am sorry you are going through such a tough time, and it does sound like a VERY tough time.
Does your school have a counselor? A school counselor is good at talking to parents so they see the need for counseling. Then they refer you to a private counselor outside the school. If you need help schedulig time to see the school counselor just go to your favorite teacher and ask for help.
I know--been there.

[turquoisesea]

I dunno how swimming affects the body, but I know that exercise can add body mass.

Are you doing any exercise now? I do NOT mean by this post that I agree with your mother - actually the exact opposite, but it sounds like you're stuck in a situation where you are being forced to be subjected to her.

Maybe you could start exercising on a regular basis. The reason I say this is NOT because of how you look or how you weigh. It's because it would get your mother off your back a bit, you'd have a defence against her and something to say to your doctor. It also MIGHT lower your cholesterol and increase your health. Personally I have adopted exercising 2 times a week or so at a gym, even this has made me feel better EMOTIONALLY - apparently it has a similar effect to depression medications and some therapists even prescribe it!

Gentle hugs, and best of luck dealing with this situation

I had just accepted who I am and how I look then my doctor goes and tells me that I'm obese and need to lose wait so I can be normal. I weigh 173 and suppossedly am suppossed to be 120....it's mostly from muscle to

So basically she told my mom i have to walk 10,000 steps a day for the next three weeks then come back and HOPEFULLY i would have lost enough weight to be NORMAL.

So walking 10,000 steps a day for 3 weeks will take off 53 pounds? Right! Now that is going to be some power walking for sure.

My suggestion is to ask your doctor to refer you to a psychiatrist for an evaluation and appropriate treatment. I recognize Mom may not agree, but general practitioners are not the experts here.

Walking five to six miles a day is a good bit of exercise, and will not hurt you, but it is not the treatment you seek.
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[idk y]

yeah, i know. I am trying to exercise even more though. I am suppossed to be getting a memborship to the gym soon because I can't run or walk for very long outside without my ankles twisting up. However, this summer I will be walking 5 miles a day for 19 days so i need to prepare for that

[1flagwriter]

So, so glad you are okay!

Good for you, idk y.

[thine_self_untrue]

((((((idk y))))))))

[Monsieur]

Best of luck to you idk y.

~Monsieur