[brighteyesxo]

I think over spring break (Wednesday-Monday) I might tell my mom about my problems. A while ago I typed out a letter but never gave it to her. I might give that to her, I might just say it. Who knows. I'm pretty nervous. I might not even do it.....

Any advice?

[Rohag]

Advice, no. I simply wish to applaud your intention to inform your mother. I wish you strength to go through with it no matter how you do it.

[Mike_J]

If she knows she can help, well maybe not help directly but assist you getting the help you need. Dealing with depression alone is hard (hey it's hard even when you have support), but this is a decission that you have to make on your own, sometimes family knowing can make things worse if they aren't the supportive type.

Good luck

[brighteyesxo]

Originally Posted by Mike_J

If she knows she can help, well maybe not help directly but assist you getting the help you need. Dealing with depression alone is hard (hey it's hard even when you have support), but this is a decission that you have to make on your own, sometimes family knowing can make things worse if they aren't the supportive type.

Good luck

I basically have to tell my mom to get any sort of help whatsoever, because I'm only 16.

Emily, the reality is that you know you need help. We can offer our support and be cheerleaders. The gumption to look your mom in the eye and tell her some things are going on that are scary and disturbing must come from you. Ask to see a psychiatrist for an evaluation and any appropriate treatment.

Most parents would want to know and help you -- at least I want to believe that is the case. You are a valuable and important person, Emily. Please do what you can to get help.

(((((( Emily ))))))

[justfloating]

(((((((((brighteyes))))))))))))

I think it's very brave of you to tell your mom about what's going on. I was terrified when I did it. I guess the only advice I would give is to remember that your mom loves and wants what's best for you. People's reactions to depression differ as much as the people who suffer from it, so just try to explain everything as clearly as you can. If you think the letter would explain it best, then by all means use it. I know I'm better at getting my thoughts organized on paper.

On the off chance that you change your mind and don't want to talk to your mom, what about a school counsellor? They're confidential and could either help you come up with the words to tell your mom (you could probably arrange a meeting between the three of you if you'd be more comfortable with that) or could steer you in the direction of further help. No matter what you do, I hope you sit down and talk to someone about how you've been feeling. Depression is highly treatable and seeking help from family or a professional is going to go a long way in getting you past it.

Sending lots of hugs.

[turquoisesea]

All other posters have given you sound advice.

My advice is to tell her. Understand as Rebecca said that everyone has different reactions, but it's important for you to reach out right now. Getting the help you need could do wonders for you so it's worth a try =)

[ruffy]

(((((((((((Brighteyes)))))))))))) Thinking of you. Its good to reach out. We are here for you!!!

[brighteyesxo]

Today I went to the dermatologist and I've tried soooo many different things for my acne, so he decided to put me on a birth control pill to regulate the hormones. So I think I'm going to give that a few weeks to settle in and see if it helped at all. If not, then I'll talk to my mom.

Thanks for all the support

[turquoisesea]

Originally Posted by brighteyesxo

Today I went to the dermatologist and I've tried soooo many different things for my acne, so he decided to put me on a birth control pill to regulate the hormones. So I think I'm going to give that a few weeks to settle in and see if it helped at all. If not, then I'll talk to my mom.

Thanks for all the support

Glad you're trying something new for the acne and still considering telling your mom.

Just a few random things for acne that I've picked up over the years (I used to have icky acne, but no longer ) I know your dermatologist probably has alot of advice but I'm just adding this incase something helps.
First off, even though it seems gross now it might start going away as you get older and hormones start to balance out, but for now....
I found that changing the pillow case I sleeped on more often helped a lot. If you think about it, sleeping on it every night is putting the oils from you face all over it and changing it makes your face cleaner.
I'm assuming your dermatologist gave you some face cleansers and lotions - I know mine told me to make sure to keep myself moisturized (she suggested oil of olay for sensitive skin) because if you are dried out your skin produces more oil to deal with it, which causes problems.

also as far as birth control goes - do be aware that in regards to depression birth control is known as a "helper" but also can cause some depression, depending on the person! So please keep track of your mood and make sure all is well :P

anyways, I hope it all works out for you, keep us posted

I hope you find some relief from the overarching problems you are dealing with. Good luck.

[lxegirl]

I didn't want to tell my mom for a long time because i knew she was really stressed out with work and everything, and i did not want to add any worries to her. But i called my doctor and then decided to go ahead and tell my mom...it worked out ok don't worry it will turn out better than you think!