Just So Sad!

I have been fighting depression on and off for a long time. My husband is one who belives that your weak if you are depressed and just looks at me like I am stupid and just making this up when I say I need help. It hurts that I would love to talk to him about stuff but all I get is him starting a convo about something else instead of listening, rolling his eyes at me when I am upset because god forbid Im alowed to be mad, he just says that Im being a bad wife or person. When I get depressed I eat so I am about 50lbs overweight which makes me more depressed and then I can't stop eating. Then I have my husband telling me why are you trying to diet again, you know you are just going to fall off the wagon. The one friend I have lives 1000 miles away and I never get to see her even though I talk to her a lot but that doens't help when you need a hug or a girls night out. I just feel so alone and I don't have any time to find a therapist becuase I have 2 small kids, I work full time, go to school full time and god forbid I have to take even more time away from my husband to try and help myself. I hope this site will help some and maybe meet some people!

Oh Allalone, I am so sorry you are feeling so depressed. You've got alot on your plate with two young children and a husband who is not very supportive. Heres a big hug for you!! You will find alot of support here. You are not alone. Keep in touch! OK now, group hug!!

Group Hug!

Allalone, my heart goes out to you so very much... I think your husband is being quite the jerk when it comes to depression - though I realize it can be hard for people to understand who have not experienced it for themselves. Remember, Depression is Not a Choice! I just heard that today in class, and I almost cried right there... because I do to myself, what your husband does to you. I keep thinking I should just be able to give myself a little shake, and throw it off, be happy, and all would be well.

It just doesn't work that way.

Depression is a disease. People don't tell someone with cancer that they should just "be well", do they? Or to shake off a broken bone?

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You are doing SO MUCH right now. I do hope you find a therapist. You're too busy NOT to! Too much riding on you... too much on your plate... too much to deal with alone!

Take care of You...

Sorry you are in such a bad place with so little support. Hope you find a way to get professional help.

allalone you must feel so alone..hugs as much as u need ..

i am also soeey allalone2 that your husband is not understanding of what you are going through but you shoudl find comfort here ...it is very hard for someone to understand the disease of depression unless they have been through it because everybody goes throuhgh a depression episodes but some can fight it and come out of it and people just dont understand hwo its twice as hard for us to handle everyday issues and it will only frsutrtae you more trying to get him to understand...do you go to any form of counseling that would be a good idea and then maybe he will go with you and you could have a professional explain to him what you are going through and then maybe he will open his eyes a alittle ...men are visual so try and paint a piuctuire for him to relate too and that may get some results

THanks for the support, it does help that others understand what im going thru. I have stoped trying to make my husband understand and talk with best friend instead, she understands better then he does, and thanks for the hugs! thats what i need!