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well
today at work my manager took me to lunch. and we had a big chat about work and job and stuff. i am loving it (i do qualitative research for AC Nielsen). and then she asked me why i have been so tense and upset at work. i thought that i have been hiding it all ok. but apparently not. i was so embarrassed i just wanted to split, and she was trying to come up with some solutions for me. she wants me to do yoga and have some more beach walks at lunchtime (our building is right next to the beach). i just said i had had some stress with my flatmates (true in a way, one is being poopy about rent dates n stuff - he was late with payment and insists he isn't. not a big deal though). i cant believe i looked such a mess and i just dont know what to do, i want everything to just go away. on top of that i had another couple of friends say something to me over the last week or 2 and i have just said i am stressed at work. i don't know what to do. sorry for whining (again) ![]() |
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Hi d,
Oh, that's a hard one. I think you are right to make some excuses instead of saying anything about being ill - I believe that people still have a lot of stigma about any form of psychological illness. If I was in your position right now I think I would stick with my cover story with the boss, and share the truth here at PC or with your own therapist. I am sorry that things are like this for you, I have been in a similar situation but my boss wasn't so sympathetic, so at least you have that on your side. Good luck and good thoughts. M ![]() |
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yes my boss is just amazing, she is a really cool woman. very mumsy to us but a very smart lady.
thank you, i am glad you agree, i don't think it would be good to let anyone know at work. what are some tricks for being more normal tho, i am so so embarrassed, and i dnt want any more of my friends to notice ![]() i dont have a T but i hope it is ok to vent a bit on the boards still. |
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Venting is good. Keep that up.
I am like you. I have a really hard time hiding my feelings from people. I guess the only advice I have is to just simply say..."I have some unexpected buisness come up and just need a little bit to resolve it". Dont get specific, just enough for them to know that your dealing with something without actually letting them know what it is. I am thinking that you need to do some extra curricular activities to not only relieve your stress, but to divert your mind to more positve things. Yoga is good, I hear. I have never actually done this but I hear that its wonderful. Taking walks on the beach is great. That is one of my most peaceful places. I can actually clear my head and listen to only the sounds of the water, waves and birds. To me, it's so peaceful. How do you feel about crafts? I know sometimes its hard to set aside time to do things like that but doing crafts can be really helpful. You can create, divert your mind all at the same time. Just a thought. I hope your feeling better soon. Sending postive vibes your way. Hang in there. Keep posting. Remember, your strong and you will overcome this. Take care. Hugs, Jen |
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![]() i am going to try more exercise ... i am trying to go swimming and stuff at home each night too. sleeping is better though :/ thank you again x |
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