[Berries]

No one will ever love me. And I am too afraid of relationships and intimacy to let anyone in. And i I have severe germ phobia. Plus, the only ones who will date me are scum.
I just want a normal person, with a career (so the aren't a smooch), kind, loving, affectionate. sSome one who is honest with me. And we "get each other" and are attractive to eachother. Someone who can look past my mental ilness & my being disabled.
but i am 44 & running out of time. If I ever do overcome my intamacy issues & germ phobia, by the time I do I'll be too old to attract somene like the above.

[Gus1234U]

ooh Berries~! to grieve the loss of a "normal" life: that which we expected to have, is only normal,, give it some time, then you have to move on. maybe you won't accept someone who is a decent person in your life ? maybe you need to do some work on yourself, before you can be that special on in another's life ? there are surely plenty of examples of people who are stuck in their grief and confusion, i hope you don't become, or remain, one of them. make a decision, carry it out , little by little,, get ahead of the curve,,
best wishes,,, Gus

[lynn P.]

I don't have an answer ((Berries)). Just stopping by to give you a hug. Since you're unhappy, what can you do to come up with a plan? Did you ever get that appointment with the OCD specialist?

[Berries]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

I don't have an answer ((Berries)). Just stopping by to give you a hug. Since you're unhappy, what can you do to come up with a plan? Did you ever get that appointment with the OCD specialist?

thanks for the hug! I am stating a group therapy for ocd, run by a well respected ocd specialist, next week.

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by Berries

thanks for the hug! I am stating a group therapy for ocd, run by a well respected ocd specialist, next week.

Thanks for the reply ((Berries)) and that's good news. I hope the group therapy works well. Remember try not to be self conscious...remember to deep breath and you'll be among fellow sufferers.

[madisgram]

sorry you are so down on yourself today, berries. we value you here at pc.
once i discovered i could love myself i have a difficult time finding someone that meets my standards!!! i'm not willing to settle for "seconds". i've learned to enjoy myself with myself. not lonely, just living alone. friends can be as meaningful as any one relationship. thank goodness for good friends. they light up my life!

[justfloating]

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I have no answers for you. But you ARE cared about and important to so many of us here, including me. Remember, anyone who would be deterred by your illness, your disability, your age or any of the other things that are a part of you would not be a good fit for you in the first place. You are a truly special person. You deserve all the love and compassion in the world. Madisgram is right ... concentrate on loving YOURSELF first. There are people out there in relationships now who are just as unhappy because they don't know how to love themselves, no matter how much they are loved by others. I'm glad you're starting the OCD therapy, that's a real positive step forward. Good luck!

[Berries]

Originally Posted by madisgram

friends can be as meaningful as any one relationship. thank goodness for good friends. they light up my life!

I don't have any irl friends. So, maybe I should start there. Well, actually I have been working towards that. But it has been an uphill battle and I haven't made much progress. I haven't given up though.
Thank you for your encouragement

[Berries]

Originally Posted by justfloating

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I have no answers for you. But you ARE cared about and important to so many of us here, including me. Remember, anyone who would be deterred by your illness, your disability, your age or any of the other things that are a part of you would not be a good fit for you in the first place. You are a truly special person. You deserve all the love and compassion in the world. Madisgram is right ... concentrate on loving YOURSELF first. There are people out there in relationships now who are just as unhappy because they don't know how to love themselves, no matter how much they are loved by others. I'm glad you're starting the OCD therapy, that's a real positive step forward. Good luck!

Thank you for your kind words, encouragement and positive acknowlegement (about the OCD therapy group)

[Fuzzybear]

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[SophiaG]

Fear. It's blocking you from potential happiness. You have to let go of the mindset that shows you images of a broken heart in order to find a partner. <3