[Miracle1986]

Before he left for work, my husband gave me a honey do list:

- take a shower (I kinda feel like he is acting like my mom, forcing me to shower, but its whatever)
- do laundry (2 overflowing baskets of clean clothes have been sitting in the living for almost 2 weeks now...
so I need to fold those, and I probably have at least 3 loads worth to wash and dry, and fold)
- unload dishwasher and reload it

I have been up and out of bed since 7:30 and so far I have only done one half of one thing on his list. (I managed to unload the dishwasher)
But I am so tired, all I want to do is take a nap. Am I just being lazy? Part of me feels like I just need a swift kick in the pants, but part of me has no motivation to do any of this. I kinda feel bad, cuz my husband will be disappointed if nothing gets done, but I'm just so tired. Ugh... I know you all probably just think I am making excuses because I am lazy, but I'm not. Unloading the dishwasher really did wear me out. I don't know why, but I feel like I have run a marathon. I'm gonna shut up now.

[findingmyself1005]

I know just exactly how you feel, you are not alone. Are you on meds for anyhting , because that right there will make you feel worn down. That was my issue. I was diagnoised with bipolar 4 yrs ago. For the first yr i did nothing but get up and get the kids out to shcool and sleep all day. I would get up long enough to do a little cleaning and i had the same problem, everything seemd like a chore. I finally went to my doc and said i had enough and i wanted off all the meds. He then put me on whats called provigil, which is an upper. He told me that its like drinking 10 cups of coffee and it is. That was a mircle drug for me for a little while. I was able to get up and take it and be able to make it all day and get all that i had to get done. Then he put me on a stronger form of it because it wasnt working as well as with many meds , they lose their effect, however the new one sent me to the er with almost a heart attck. SO i went off both. Until yesterday when i went back i have been feeling the same again for the last 6 months, I have been trying eveyrhting to get my engery up and nothing was working. Provigil isnt for everyone but its somehting you can talk to your doc about , if you are on other meds that may make you tired. Vitman D also helps with engery if your not getting enough sunlight. I do wish you luck and keep us in tune

[Miracle1986]

Originally Posted by findingmyself1005

Are you on meds for anyhting , because that right there will make you feel worn down.

All I am on is Divalproex - 500mg (generic for Depakote) for my migraine headaches

[Rohag]

Hi, Miracle1986!

Just my opinion mixed with personal experience...

• You managed to unload the dishwasher! Congrats!
• Take a nap.
• No, you're not lazy; you are ill.
• A "swift kick in the pants" would be pointless.
• Enlist some help in getting your house the way you want it OR allow yourself all the time you need to finish up that list (me -- that list could take me 3-5 days if I didn't pressure myself; pressuring myself, it might never get done).
• This is PsychCentral; you don't need to shut up.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I don't think you're lazy. If you're like me, you're resentful that your hubby left you this INSULTING list in the first place. I mean, my gosh - did he have to tell you to take a shower?? How insulting. He sounds like my Ex who used to make lists for everyone in the family. Well, screw that!!! I wouldn't do anything on the list just BECAUSE he made a stupid list! Who did he think he was, anyway - God??? Don't TELL me to do something because I won't do it. But if you ASK me nicely, ok. If you make a LIST of things I must do, I'll probably tear it up and feed it to you in your supper that night!!!

Your hubby needs an attitude adjustment. I understand why you're tired. You're tired of LISTS. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[JenIsAlwaysSick]

I make myself daily lists that I can't stick with sometimes, but I know how you're feeling. I have trouble when my husband asks me to handle something that hasn't been taken care of in awhile. I know he just needs certain things to get done, and he has every right to bring it up, but I always feel defensive when he brings it up. He does it less now. Like laundry, if he sees it hasn't been done in awhile, he'll just do it himself and leave me alone about it, for the most part. He has noticed that I have been unusually down and tired lately, and he knows I'm doing the best I can, so he basically leaves me alone about chores.

I feel lazy too. Sometimes I just have to push through that tired feeling and just get it done, but other days, I have zero motivation. All the energy I have left goes to my children, as I'm a stay-at-home mother and I work from home as well, so I tend to work more than do housework. I often find that I don't desire to shower either, because I have better things to do...like sit and relax, right? lol

Sorry you're feeling so low.