[MsNiteOwl]

Just blah. Achy for a caring voice or an understanding person.

Don't you just hate it when the people around you find something negative to say to you with everything positive you try to say. And they also have that "Just get over it" attitude when you think it's safe to share your down feelings with them.

Why should I try to be understanding or caring with anyone when I only get it shoved back in my face? Why should I try to respond to folks in various formats on the internet with caring and understanding when more often than not, I get my head bit off for it?

I wish I could be more cold and uncaring like many folks I've had the misfortune of being around in real life and on the internet too. Then I wouldn't get hurt so much.

I believe in "the next life", and I hope that when I get there I find caring and understanding people. Just finding people who don't shred my positives and blow off my negatives would be such a wonderful change from this life.

[jilliebeanmn]

awww...there are caring and understanding people in this life...I'd like to think I am one of them. I'm sorry you are feeling blah and not finding a sympathetic ear.

WARM hugs to you!

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by MsNiteOwl

Don't you just hate it when the people around you find something negative to say to you with everything positive you try to say.

Yes. They scorch the spirit. And the memory of that pain seems to cling to me forever. I'm sorry you've had too much contact with such folks.

[MsNiteOwl]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Yes. They scorch the spirit. And the memory of that pain seems to cling to me forever. I'm sorry you've had too much contact with such folks.

You're right, they do scorch the spirit. And mine has been burned my entire life.

[Bluesummers]

I had an experence of this recently. I sort of msn'ed a friend, in the hope I could talk to them, open up a bit, and try to feel a bit better about myself. However they just gave me the "get over it" kinda attitude.

We ended up having a small fight. I know they care, and are just trying to give some tough love, but geez... wasn't what I needed. What really bugged me is, I've helped them so much over the years I've known them with their problems, and I've never turned around and said, sorry can't help you, your all by yourself. It sucked.

So, I think I can empathize with you a bit on this. All I can say advise wise, as one person to another, don't give up on sharing your feelings. If theres people or places you can turn to, and you feel comfortable, then its worth talking. Your a person too, and bottling up feelings, can be so bad for you sometimes. At least thats what my experences tell me.(hope that was at least a bit helpful)

[MsNiteOwl]

Bluesummers,
Sometimes I think it's just the luck of the draw with people. We try to do our best, within our own capacity. I think that in some situations, outside influences make a lot of difference in how two people interact on any given moment or situation.

And I know for myself, as badly as I want caring and understanding from folks, sometimes as much as they want to give it, their life is giving them so much trouble that even if they try, it comes out wrong. And I know that I can ask for a hug, and then almost physically fight against it if it's given, even with the best of intentions.

And of course, there are folks who simply say what they believe they "should" say, but when it comes down to actually doing anything, forget it.

It hurts when it happens to us, especially for those of us who are really needing comfort and support. I try to just accept that people can only be who and what they are. And if they disappoint me too many times and I can, I move on. It's a matter of weighing the positives and negatives of being around that person.

Hugs!

[Bluesummers]

Thats very true indeed. I suppose I just wish more people in my life could remember that I've been kind to them, and helped them when they were in need. I know people can't always do that for different reasons, and sometimes I make mistakes too, but, it would be nice. Even if it happened just a bit more.

Hugs back!

[MsNiteOwl]

BlueSummers,

I totally agree.

Big Hugs to You!

[cheshireKat]

Originally Posted by MsNiteOwl

Just blah. Achy for a caring voice or an understanding person.

Don't you just hate it when the people around you find something negative to say to you with everything positive you try to say. And they also have that "Just get over it" attitude when you think it's safe to share your down feelings with them.

Yeah. You say "blah." I say "blah" right back to you. We're on the same page.

It's autumn. I don't feel like doing anything but getting ready to hibernate.