I'm back and trying to cope and do for myself finally

hello all,

i want to say again thank you all for listening it really is helping. but im back with more frustrations and fighting my depression.

i took the advice of my brother and some of the cool people of this site,when i shared that i wanted to get my bankruptcy out of the way and that i have ad a long life dream of riding motorcycles (i.e. a harley-davidson). especially since my fiance of 3 yrs has decided to split and do her own thing. i feel relieved thats she's going because i can finally focus on me and one day find someone who really cares about me,and not have someone's family trying to tell me how to live and everything ALWAYS being about them.

so what i have done, i signed up to take a motorcyle riders course at a local harley dealership since my own father who rides bikes said that i'm foolish for wanting a bike and that he doesnt have the time to teach me how to ride,that I JUST THINK I WANT TO RIDE BIKES and those are actually his words. now what kind of parent says that to his kids is beyond me but thats another story.

now this is where my depression and possibly anxiety comes in. i work a temporary job that they've finally opened up hiring for and i'm on the list to get interviewed. but these people at this company are very picky and meticulous. my brother works full time at this company as well as several of his church members all who know who i am. and alot of the guys who were hired from temp to permanent ,all have shared there stories on the horror of the hiring process, ow you have disclose ever infraction you've had in your adult life and even childhood. and i didnt go through this type of scrutiny in joing the military and another goverment job i once had. its not like im building nuclear materials. and i understand each company has different standards but im a good worker that has been there on time and done what has been asked of me. but im wondering if all that i've been told about the hiring process was to scare me or what??? because im told that if you dont hear anything after your interviews and background checks to not ask about your status in the process if you do that will disqualify you and that they want tell you why you havent been chosen or what not. and that makes me weary to say the least. i just feel if i apply and i feel im a very good candidate,atleast you can tell me where i stand so if im not what you want in an employee, i can move on and find something because i have a dream and a goal for this year. and its like alot is hanging in the balance. i was hanging around bikers this weekend of all walks of life and for the 1st time i felt welcomed around a group of people and i dont want that to fade due to thinking negative and all that... i dont want to be depressed anymore i found something that i feel great about. and its like every time i do find someting that makes me happy it ends up on the backburner. so thats what i have going on. am i the only one that goes through this??? am i alone in feeling the way that i do. i really want to do something for me for a change and not putting others 1st. i hope that god is watching over me and listening. i just want to be happy. and not get down so much.

and if any of you are wondering if i have something on my background that maybe a red flag to these company.. no, im not a felon by any means. but they pick at any issue they may find and give you no idea as to what may make them pick you or not and thats why im paranoid..

Hello, tymewilltell11. Good luck.

Hang in there timewilltell. It's not you, it's the economy. Employers know they can be as demanding and picky as they want and there's nothing people can do about it because there's like, 100 people or some huge ridiculous number like that, for every job opening.

I finally got a part-time retail job in late October. I had to go through just what you describe: criminal background check, drug check, credit check, three online competency tests, and three in person interviews. They treat everyone who works for them like garbage and we work our butts off for $7.40/hr. Oh goody.

They watch us on monitors. (Not paranoid, they really do, they showed us where they do it and they call us if they see us make any little mistake.) They threaten to fire us every other week. Some weeks I think, oh geez, just do it. Just fire me then for pete's sake. So sick of being threatened.

So it's not always us. I mean, I think in this environment even normally chipper people would get depressed after awhile.

Good luck. I hope you get the job but if you do, like they say--the good news is, you got the job. The bad news is, you got the job.

I wish you all the luck with your future bike lessons. That is great that you signed up to take classes! I am happy for you.
I agree that because of the economy the hiring process can be horrible but try not to let everyone's stories freak you out. Just take it as it comes and do the best that you can. It sounds like you have a good chance of being full time so remain positive! Good luck!

So glad you are taking action to learn bike-riding and interviewing for a full-time job. Do take time to write down all the reasons why you would be good for the job before your interview. Talk yourself up to yourself, so you'll be prepared to put your best foot forward. You sound like you have reasonable expectations about your prospects. I used to be in the hiring/firing mode as a supervisor and superintendent in businss and manufacturing. I would have been please to talk to someone like yourself who has realistic expectations and wanted to do the work. I would be pleased to have someone with military and government background. And, best of all, someone who had been working on the job already, so we could see the work ethic and performance. Being on time and doing everything you are asked to do is of major importance. Doesn't hurt to have relatives and church members in the group--can you ask them for references? How about your current supervisor?

Good luck to you!

thank you i really appreciate it

pm..i wanna say thank you because i didnt think anyone else was going through what im feeling at this time. because its a messed type of feeling

missmay,thank you im going to do my best to remain positive but its proving to be very hard

thank you im really hoping that i can land this job i used to be a more confident person than what i am now a days..and that in itself scares me.