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Old Oct 20, 2003, 08:57 PM
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I don't understand why my best friend backstab me. I can't tell you what happened. But it did happened. She was cruel and put my life in danger. And I don't know why she did this to me.

I can't stop thinking about it over and over again. I can't found an answer. I never saw it coming. I wouldn't even had thought she would do this. I did so much for her over the years. I was always there for her. I know I was a good friend. But she hurt me so bad I can't cope with it. I can't deal with it. I can't forget. I can't let it go. I don't understand why.

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Old Oct 20, 2003, 09:08 PM
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I'm sorry, Hun. There are users in this life. I had a "friend" like that not too long ago. She used me up and when I needed a friend, she threw me away. It hurts but we don't have to define who we are by how some people treat us. Because your friend backstabbed you doesn't make you a bad person. It's the other way around. Sometimes you can see this kind of people coming, but sometimes you can't. Just gotta stay on a even keel watching for red flags. My mom used to tell me that I gave my heart right away and that's why I got used or hurt to easy.

Hang in there. You'll make it. I don't understand



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Old Oct 21, 2003, 03:13 AM
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Forgotten,
Over time I learned to stop asking "WHY?" when the answer wasn't coming fairly easy. It means to me there really is no answer and you'll only go crazy searching for something that isn't there.

It's horrible that she did what she did but it was her, not you. You were a good friend and she threw it away. Maybe she wasn't thinking clearly, maybe she was just mean and you didn't know she had that in her. Maybe she made a huge mistake and she will feel bad for the rest of her life.

The important thing is you have to know what a friend you are and that what someone else does or when they treat you badly it is not a reflection on you, it's them.

Hang in there sweetie. Time heals and maybe you will find a way to understand and let go.
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Old Oct 21, 2003, 08:19 AM
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This time, I don't take the guilt for what happened. Because this was really not my fault. I see her often because I don't live far from her. But we don't talk to each other.

Hubby said maybe it was because there was going to be a promotion where I worked. Me and her worked at the same place. And I was getting that promotion. Maybe she wanted it and by doing this she was getting me out of her way.

I would have thought with all the time we were friends, she would knew what was important for me in life. Certainly not a promotion. I would have giving it to her. After what happened I quit that job.

As you said, time heal. But I will never get close to anyone again.
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Old Oct 21, 2003, 08:42 AM
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After all the people that claimed to be my friend as well, I have realized that when I need them, they are not there. I can honestly say that maybe, just maybe, I have 2 friends.......even then, I'm not sure they'd be there.

It's lonely at first, but I have learned to survive without the so-called friendship of people (in real life, not here)

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Old Oct 21, 2003, 09:36 AM
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This very same situation, a co-worker from my job a couple of years ago, is still an issue I struggle with, too, (((((((((Never Forgoten))))))) = It's getting a bit better now, but it is still hard for me to believe it even happened sometimes.

What we can't do is let what they did close us off and harden our hearts to new friends = then they really have won. XOXOXO, your friend, Peanut

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