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#1
May 28, 2011, 01:49 PM
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this is one of the only ways to try and deal with life. To put up road blocks around me as protection. Now my T is asking me to face the road blocks, and I just don't want to. I want to be off meds, but the defense mechanisms are just to important.
Any ideas to help to have something else in stead of road blocks to still feel happy???? |
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May 29, 2011, 07:05 PM
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Hello, Puzzclar! We all have our psychological defenses. They're necessary, but sometimes they're "overkill"; they can be much bigger than the actual threats out there and get in the way of living.
I always liked the saying: "If you fortify a position so well that the enemy can't get in -- you can't get out." I'm talking in metaphors here, but is it possible for you to identify the specific (physical/psychic) threats for which you need defenses, and then work on resizing or restructuring your defenses to target those specific threats? A "Great Wall" will keep out both friends and enemies; you need something that identifies and lets in friends. This is not a quick fix. Please keep posting. 
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#3
May 29, 2011, 10:41 PM
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Why don't you tell T how you feel about your roadblocks, and see if you and T can find a way to work as Rohag has suggested, to move them a bit, or make them multi-layered, so some things can get in, but you still feel you have some protection, so it's not giving them up all at once?
Your T must have confidence in you, that you are stronger, and don't need as much defense. I'd take this as a good sign, whatever you decide to do! |
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Jun 01, 2011, 04:49 PM
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Roadblock for today.... I don't want to start packing and moving things. I don't want to have to move again.
I know moving right now is necessary, but still hard, it's only moving up stairs but I"m still freaking out about just moving one stair way up. Things keep on changing way to quickly, and I feel so out of control, and that's when things normally have gone wrong, but I guess I have to start to change sooner or later. Roadblock to Change Change scares me, I just want to stay the same, but I hate to have things change, but it's also the only way that I can get of the meds that are causing so much trouble. But I don't want to change because it's to painful. But Yet I"m soooo tired of all this medication, and being down, and a few other things, that help me to have some will to change. I really hate change, it's almost a phobia. |
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Jun 01, 2011, 08:10 PM
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I'm just supper stressed right now, I've got to move yet again, and having a hard time finding people to help, and it doesn't help that I don't want to start moving things up to the new place. Some how I need to accept this change for the better, or just accept it.
I know I need to get to work on moving things up but my problem is just not knowing were to start.... dang road block.... okay so first up some of the boxes that I don't have to pack. That's a good place to start, right. |
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Jun 02, 2011, 03:22 AM
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Yep, it will be easier once you get started. Move some easy stuff. Then you'll feel like you have accomplished something. Can clothes on hangers just be carried upstairs? Cleaning the closet out--putting that in the new place is a good start. How much time do you have to move?
How about the fridge and kitchen cupboards? Take one box, fill it, move it, unpack it, then go back for another. So the new place will be put in place, what you've moved. Might help you feel more settled. Just put one foot ahead of the other. Take baby steps, but do move. It will get easier once you've started. Wish I could help more! |
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Jun 02, 2011, 10:53 PM
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That's what I did, only men were suppose to show up in order to help with the big stuff. and no one showed up.....
And to top it off, I couldn't get of one med like I wanted to. There are so many things that... okay that's just wanting to take control of all this stuff, since for me sleep is an issue. Not to mention other things... Grr....... |
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#8
Jun 03, 2011, 06:23 AM
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So sad your helpers didn't come! Can you get them for another day? How much more time do you have to move?
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Jun 03, 2011, 03:10 PM
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Found some.... by going to where I knew people would be. Now its time to unpack after work, and going to the library... oh joy
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Jun 03, 2011, 10:47 PM
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Good for you! Glad you found your movers!
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