[katheryn]

just want to vent i was wandering why bad things keep happening to me , i know lots of ppl have bad things happen but some of the things going on with me at the moment i cant seem to control, hubby feels guilty for the things that have happened between us and this is effecting him and the way he is,
when i was working the other night my brother in law was watching tv with my hubby about 11pm when they heard a knock on the door this was my brother in laws next door neighbour this female has been obseessed with him for ages he doesnt want nothing to do with her but she keeps comming here when shes been drinking causing a nusiance normaly late at night this seemed to stop around xmas n but tues night she came down twice second time she just walked in hubby had to be rude to get rid of her, then just now she came down again i told her we cant cope with this behaviour and i would call the police next time i think she had been drinking its only 5pm here

[BlueFaith]

Whoa.... that's BAD. First of all, I wouldn't wait for her to do it again. I'd at least call the police and make a report of it. She could be a major threat to you and your family. I'd definitely call the police and just give them a heads up on what's going on. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I mean, c'mon, all of us have had nuisance neighbors, but your situation is just downright dangerous.

I hope you get it all resolved soon.

[(JD)]

I think it's a good thing that that happened while your hubby had company! so that's not so bad (though it could become worse, I agree.) I doubt the police can do anything until she does something...unless you post a no trespassing sign, you would have to get a TRO to stop her, and if she is a neighbor, that wouldn't be very enforceable. (and costs money)

Things happen. It's called life. I'm not minimizing how you feel about these things, I, for one, certainly understand how events affect us (especially when we are already "down."

TC and keep going.. one step in front of the other.

[katheryn]

thanks for the advise i did get some information from the police i can only phone them if she has walked into our home or is causing a nusiance, i also know that brother in law should file a complaint , he is only 21 she is in her forties, ties after she left here she was up on the main road flashing at the passing cars ,
and the police had to take her home but that didnt stop her going to another neighbours yesterday asking them to come to mine to look for brother in law we were out and children were with my hubbys sister luckly this neighbour new what she is like and refused ,
other than this things are good at the moment hubby is trying to decide if he should go to his mates wifes funeral on tues he isnt sure if he can handle it yet

[(JD)]

YW wow, that's a lot of stress in your family lately. Whatever your hubby decides will be a good decision. I hope he can go and support his friend in his loss... funerals are for the living, to help deal with the loss. TC

[Lexicon78]

It's a good idea that you went to the police for some info about what's been going on with this woman. It also shows that she does have a record for inappropriate behavior. Unfortunately, you can't do anything yet. What I would do the next time she comes to the door is to try to kindly tell her to go away and shut the door. Then if there is any trouble after that, call the police immediately...then maybe something more can be done.

Sorry I can't be of any more help. Take care.

[Hopefull]

Document everything. If someone witnessing something, get them to write it down. I mean everything. That is probably the only to get the police to do much. Unfortunately that is the way that our law works. It can be very frustrating for you. Hang in there. Feel free to vent when you need to.