how does it feel?

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Fuzzybear said:
... I am confused by why you find some people so scary in the DID forum and do not find the same people so scary elsewhere.

I am also confused by whether you would find me PMing you "scary"...

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> well this isn't really the appropriate place to address time0's query in the other thread.

like we said before we're not the ones with the ignore on bear. only you can make the choices as to what you do. as for what happens beyond that that's life and again never a guarantee as to how things work out. life is risky.

I just wanted to say...if people are judging you and telling you false input...tell them to f*%#! off!

I also sometimes check to see whether certain people have me on ignore. Currently I have about 5 people on ignore I think. And sometimes, I put someone on ignore and then forget to take them off ignore when I feel safer or different..... I often read logged out, for various reasons, so it's easy to forget whether I have some people on ignore.... with all my issues IRL and at times confuzzled bear brain

Thank you Pegasus for your thoughtful and insightful input, this is some of the stuff I am working on currently and am journalling some of it to discuss with friends elsewhere and hopefully a therapist eventually....

Take care,
Fuzzy

Thanks Lex, Myzen and everyone who replied to this thread! I think it's a good thread with a lot of food for thought...

I always appreciate honest discussion (unless someone is being deliberately judgemental as opposed to offering constructive criticism, although again, with everyone, this is a question of perception.... some might feel someone is being judgemental, or violating in various ways partly because of their own unclear or confusing communication (of which I am "guilty" of at times......) .... the other person not being able to put themselves in that persons shoes at that particular time because of their own feelings of violaton etc etc etc) and/or their background, issues, and traumas in their earlier life, while others might not....... just my opinion )

(Myzen I do not find you judgemental (( Myzen ))

"if they wish to believe the worst then that is saying more of where they're at than anything about (me)..."

Yep

my thoughts about others believing the worst about me!

some can empathise and some can't... like you said, that is "life"

Fuzzy, I wish I could empathize more about this

I truly don't understand, but it's not because I'm not trying. As your friend, I do WANT to understand and give you as much empathy as is helpful to you

Thank you LMo, I know you are, I know you are honest and gentle and would never hurt anyone intentionally. (I can also see those qualities in myself unless I am mired in self hate ) I appreciate your friendship