[maymie]

I'm trying not to let my stress turn into depression.
I got engaged in September of last year and from then on I've heard nothing but negativity from everyone. You name it and chances are people have been extremely negative about it. My divorced parents have been at each others throats since I got engaged, bashing one another and etc. My brother has been very rude and hateful towards the wedding in general.
I have no clue what I'm doing and every time i ask for help I get made fun of or hear all the negative things about the wedding. I've had lots of people offer to help and then the second I take them up on it they are too busy, change the subject or something just to get out of actually following through. Every time I ask someone who has been through a wedding or planning it they make fun of me for being stressed about it. I have less than three months left and although i do have a lot of it done I still have questions about things that I have no clue about. My maid of honor has been as helpful as she can be but she is very busy with her own life and helps me as much as she can and knows how to. I went to see my cousin and asked her a few questions and instead of being kind and helpful her and the lady in her office, whom I know, basically puts me down.
I'm stressed and sometimes I feel like the stress is trying to become depression and anger.

[turquoise4]

Hi Maymie,

I am sorry you have been encountering so much negativity. I have never been married, but I know from witnessing others' experiences that planning weddings can be stressful. Remember to take care of yourself

[Leed]

Why is everyone being so negative? Don't they like your fiance'? What's behind all this? It doesn't make sense that EVERYONE is being so negative. There's got to be more to it than this.

I wish things were different for you. This should be a special time for you, and not so terribly stressful. I wish you the best and hope your special day is all you hope it to be. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[Mike_J]

In my experience stress is "rocket fuel" for depression.

You are going through something that is very stressful, a huge life change, and trying to make your wedding day the "perfect day"

I know this will be hard but cut yourself some slack, you don't have to plan the perfect wedding, if this is the man you love and the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then so what if everything at the wedding doesn't come off perfectly. You will be married to the perfect guy (OK nobody's perfect but you know what I'm trying to say) don't let others bring you down. Do what you can, and realize that at the end of the day it will be more than good enough.

[maymie]

My family is very negative in general. They've always been this way. It isn't just about my fiance. They were negative about everything before he came along. He is just a new topic for them to be negative about. No there isn't more to it other than they are just negative people and I'm the outcast of the family. There is nothing more to it or anything behind it other than they are just negative people and have been since I was born. As I said my fiance/wedding is just another reason for them to be negative. Yes they like my fiance but they are just negative people.

Originally Posted by Leed

Why is everyone being so negative? Don't they like your fiance'? What's behind all this? It doesn't make sense that EVERYONE is being so negative. There's got to be more to it than this.

I wish things were different for you. This should be a special time for you, and not so terribly stressful. I wish you the best and hope your special day is all you hope it to be. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[Mommilady]

Originally Posted by maymie

My family is very negative in general. They've always been this way. It isn't just about my fiance. They were negative about everything before he came along. He is just a new topic for them to be negative about. No there isn't more to it other than they are just negative people and I'm the outcast of the family. There is nothing more to it or anything behind it other than they are just negative people and have been since I was born. As I said my fiance/wedding is just another reason for them to be negative. Yes they like my fiance but they are just negative people.

Wow, that's rough. My dad could be very negative and difficult to please. If I came home with an A-, he wanted to know why it wasn't an A+. I still struggle with the urge to jump through hoops just to make others happy. It's really easy to say "Don't let them get to you, do what will make YOU happy" but I know from experience it's not so easy to put into practice.