[gloomyday]

was anyone ever a loner in high school...if so...HELP!

[Idiot17]

Gloomyday- i was. But i didnt mind it so much it was more like my choice like i couldnt handle laughter and fun. In grade 10 i was miserable being a loner effected me the most then, my friend told me to just go ahead and join ppl join conversations, just go and stick your head in. I didnt really do that but i did get a friend through trying to do it. Just go out there and slowly stick your head/ voice in the group you want to. Gluck, i know its really hard. Just try

[roses4peace]

I was pretty much of a loner, too. I had a few friends, and they all had more friends than i did. I never felt the need to befriend a ton of people, i just kind of wanted to blend in in high school.

What exactly do you need help with? Do you want to make more friends or do you need help on how to feel comfortable as a loner in high school?

I was odd I think, Well I think that is way the kids thought of me, so yeah I was a loner.

[Dreamy01]

Yes and I had no friends.

[GRUMPYPA]

Yes I was A loner at school I would of had one close mate and that would be it.I had no problem with that still enjoyed a good sports etc. You can get through life without a lot of friends. I had a large number of "friends" when I had my own business when I became Ill and needed a little help my "friends" were nowhere to be seen so choose carefully. I wish I listened to my younger self. Hope this helps a little, as long as you are happy with you it dosnt matter what others think.

I didn't have any friends in primary school . . . but then I guess not as many kids did have actual friends. I just played marbles with other kids and played with other kids by asking them if I could play with them.

In high school from Year 7 -10 I had no friends, and was a complete loner. I couldn't ask to play with other kids, because there were no games, they were all just socialising or whatever.

From the middle of Year 10 to 12, this kid got me into his group but he would always talk down to me, then other kid would just be sarcastic and mean to me (he later took a photo of me unawares and shared it with everyone at school which just freaked me out and I considered quitting), and the thrd kid was alright, except sometimes he would be mean.

So I've never made any friends, and the only group I've been in didn't treat me well a lot of the time.

But back to your opening post . . . what would you like help with?

[gloomyday]

thank you grumpypa. i wish i had someone in my life that cared about me like that. i dont think i deserve anyone like that though. my mom seems to think im evil. what if i really am? i tend to stray away from people because i used to get picked on in school, and they might make fun of me, or i might make an idiot of myself...

[gloomyday]

i think the thing i need help with the most is my depression.

I was definitely a loner in high school – didn't have friends to be around. Although I don't mind being alone itself, I find it hard to feel better about life and overcome the mental health issues I have when I am constantly alone.

[roses4peace]

I have the same feelings on this. Although I don't mind being alone, I actually like it a lot of the time, I find that being alone rarely helps the anxiety/depression/ocd symptoms. Maybe that is a part of my problem.. i like being alone too much!

Originally Posted by Mr. Venomous

I was definitely a loner in high school – didn't have friends to be around. Although I don't mind being alone itself, I find it hard to feel better about life and overcome the mental health issues I have when I am constantly alone.

Gloomy, why, may i ask, does your mom think you are evil??

[day2day]

Sure was a loner. I went into the libarary everyday at lunch to read. Hated to be around too many people. Still not very comfortable in that position. If you are near some people that are talking, wait till they talk about something you could relate to then jump right in.
Hey, you got a topic started here.
Good job.
Linda

[DianaCW91]

I was a big loner in all levels of school. I am socially awkward - in that I feel like a fish out of water when I am with people - especially people I do not know. I use to think something was wrong with me... my mother still thinks there is something wrong with me. But as I have grown up and as I have gone through therapy I have learned that if I am ok with who I am and I am not hurting myself and others then there is nothing wrong with me.

Let me ask you something, do you mind being a loner? Meaning if your mother, or others in your life were not telling you it was "wrong" would it bother you being a loner? If not then I say be who you are. You, and only you, have to live your life. As long as you are the best you, you can be then who has the right to ask anything more of you? If you don't want to be a loner and you want to be more social and have friends, then I suggest bringing that up with a T or guidance councilor. They can help you work on things to help you in your quest to be the best you, you want to be.

[jaypop30]

Originally Posted by gloomyday

was anyone ever a loner in high school...if so...HELP!

I was a loner from grade school to high school. It was hard at first but then I learned to just enjoy my own company. To this day I still enjoy my company rather then other people. Try not to look at it as such a bad thing I know its hard but it does get better in time.

[ba.ll.oo.n]

I wasn't a loner at school - I had many friends there. But I was a loner at home because I lived in a small vilage and my friends were all scattered over the countryside and we couldn't hang out after school (bad public trasport). It really ate at me back then. Once I moved out to the city I ceased being a loner again. But still got major depressive disorder.

[skyscraper]

Well, I'm a loner in high school now. I don't have any friends. And I don't go in the cafeteria.

[eskielover]

I was an only child, so being a loner wasn't an unusual thing for me. I never wanted to fit into groups or clicks.....I had one good friend from jr high (7 - college....actually until we both got married to our husbands). I was involved in school activities & president of the girls honor club in junior high & class rep in high school & in the marching band.....but I never hung out with any of the groups....I always did my own thing....but was accepted for who I was. One time a girls club wanted me to join & went through the initiation stuff but decided I really didn't like being a part of a club & liked myself better being myself.......no problem....they understood & didn't make anything of my decision not to join....was still friends with those who were a part of the club....on my terms, not the club's terms. I have always been that way & really like not feeling pressured by society to be anything that I don't want to be or believe in completely.

There is nothing wrong in being a loner as long as you are holding your values & your beliefs...pressure to be anything else only causes more stress & isn't a good thing

Anyone else a loner at school, and then when they get home they are hyperactive and won't shut up? I used to get criticized for that. . . i guess i had all this pent up energy and it used to irritate my parents.

[Mike_J]

Yes I was a loner in Highschool, I HATED Highschool, the few friends I had seemed to turn on me, would talk behind my back.

[Shadow-world]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Anyone else a loner at school, and then when they get home they are hyperactive and won't shut up? I used to get criticized for that. . . i guess i had all this pent up energy and it used to irritate my parents.

Yes, I was similar. I was too shy and introverted to open my mouth with others my own age but at home I had to release energy, talk etc. It's of course a very imbalanced way of being.

yes, i was a loner in high school. i had no money and no family encouragement to have friends. i am still a loner. i have never figured out how to make and keep friends. i am running out of time . . .

Originally Posted by gloomyday

was anyone ever a loner in high school...if so...HELP!

I wasn't necessarily a loner per se, but I did not follow with any particular "group" or form any alliances. I thought it was all ridiculous actually and I really did do my own thing.

I sort of stayed on the fringe of things and was just very friendly with everyone (it was exhausting, though. it totally took it's toll trying to hide all that pain day in and day out).

I had one or two good friends at school, and then formed other friendships through clubs / religious activities / other schools, so I did more with them than I did at my own school.

I didn't really feel comfortable and didn't really understand what was going on or why everyone was behaving so ... um .... strangely?! I still don't get it. High school is horrible if you are not a "follower" or succumb to crazy peer pressure.

Please hang in and continue to honor yourself. You are wonderful and lovely and this will not last forever

Originally Posted by Shadow-world

Yes, I was similar. I was too shy and introverted to open my mouth with others my own age but at home I had to release energy, talk etc. It's of course a very imbalanced way of being.

thanks so much for bringing this up! I was the same way. My family used to think I wouldn't shut up.

The fact was that I was so quiet, uncomfortable and trying to be absolutely perfect in public, I couldn't help but to chat them up when I got home.

[23andlost]

Had some friends in high school. But never felt close to them or like they were true friends. Any friends I had would drift away after awhile. Ive been a loner for the past 3 or 4 years once I started college. Was sort of ok with it for a few years, but am not enjoying it anymore.

[GRUMPYPA]

Has anyone ever sat done and thought that they are the normal ones being on their own and everyone else is different because they have to have friends and try fit in with everyone else and follow all the trends.