[retro_chic]

Everything just feels too hard at the moment. Every aspect of my life is a struggle (my parents, finding a job, friendships, dating/finding a relationship etc.) and I'm not sure it's worth the effort anymore. But that's what life is. I don't have a choice. I feel there is no escape. Life is too overwhelming and I don't want to do it anymore.

[Leed]

Yes, life IS a struggle. I think we've all felt like that at one time or another. But it IS worth it -- believe me. I've lived a long time, and I've been thru some very rough times. And there were times I felt just like you're feeling right now. I wondered "What's the use?" But I later found out what WAS the use!!! There is joy in living!!

You WILL find the 'right' person. You WILL find a job. You WILL make lasting friendships!! All things change -- it won't stay the way it is right now. Nothing stays the same, thank God.

Suffering from depression makes us feel so hopeless and numb! It makes everything seem to futile, when it certainly isn't. If you're NOT on an antidepressant, ask your doctor about getting on one. It doesn't have to be permanent -- maybe just to get you over the 'hump.' It can be a life-saver for some. I've been on one for years. If you ARE on one, it may not be working, and you may need an increase in dosage, or a change in the medication. Sometimes we become accustomed to our meds, and they need changing. I've had to change mine a couple of times. Talk to your doctor. He can help you.

I hope you feel better soon. Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Rohag]

Hello, Retro_Chic!

Originally Posted by retro_chic

Everything just feels too hard at the moment. ... Life is too overwhelming...

What do you need to do in the next 15 minutes? Can you just focus on that? Can you work at a pace your depression will allow?

[roads]

(((((((retro_chick))))))) and (((((((Rohag)))))))

Good morning, retro_chick. May I have the honor of presenting Rohag? I am proud to call him friend. He is wise (Rohag learned most of what he knows from an even wiser dog), and he is generous.

(LeeD, I don't know you very well ... I'm not discounting your advice!! Just happens I know Rohag from past adventures ... Good morning!)

retro_chick, baby steps are good. There are so many things urgently pressing themselves on you to get to get to each one of them first. No wonder you're feeling so overwhelmed.

Rohag's suggestion to slow down and take one thing at a time will help you to hold back the tide that is always poised, ready to sweep you off your feet. Don't let that flood carry you off ... slow down, take plenty of deep breaths, make sure you're taking one aspect of your life at a time to focus on.

I'd probably suggest not evaluating whether your life is worth the bother very often, either. I try not to run that "reality check" more than once a decade!

Seriously.

Roadie

[doggiedo]

I don't have much to add, but I want to say can relate. I am going to try the fifteen minute thing. I might just go to bed and wade it out until morning. Sending you hugs Hun.

[meetoo]

Nothing comes in a day. Everything is a process and takes its own course and needs its own attention and time.
Make your goal, break it how you would achieve it .... and try that 15 min thing.
Probably only difference between you and happy people is that invest "required" time in things whereas you might now. I hope the best for you.
I had the same problem at a time.

[retro_chic]

Thanks for the replies everyone! I really appreciate it. I have tried the 15min thing and the other suggestions people had but it all just seems like a temporary fix to a permanent issue. Sorry for all the negativity

I don't want to die but I'm not that keen on living either. I wish there was something in between. I wish humans could hibernate.

[retro_chic]

Thanks for the replies everyone! I really appreciate it. I have tried the 15min thing and the other suggestions people had but it all just seems like a temporary fix to a permanent issue. Sorry for all the negativity

I don't want to die but I'm not that keen on living either. I wish there was something in between. I wish humans could hibernate.

[penguinsing]

I can relate. I have problem with my family, friend, with finding a job and $ for post secondary ed.

My life is a mess, I have low motivation, my room is as messy, and everything feel so overwhelm.

[Fuzzybear]

Sending hugs

[DuckyMeeplovesbacon]

Write in a journal, everytime something comes up good or bad, record in a journal, you are a great person I can tell and God Blesses you, here

[justanotherday]

Originally Posted by retro_chic

Everything just feels too hard at the moment. Every aspect of my life is a struggle (my parents, finding a job, friendships, dating/finding a relationship etc.) and I'm not sure it's worth the effort anymore. But that's what life is. I don't have a choice. I feel there is no escape. Life is too overwhelming and I don't want to do it anymore.

It sounds like you're stuck. You're in a rut. Sometimes people are complacent in this rut, and others see the predictability and get depressed. And that is what happens to me.

If you're anything like that, what will likely help is having something that you can say is going right. No matter what else isn't going exactly as planned, at least that one thing is. And sometimes, having something you're satisfied with to hold onto as an achievement can make the other things seem easier to tolerate.

Shake things up a bit. Think of something you've always wanted to do, and just go do it without caring about how you get there. This trick has helped me quite a few times.

Our sadness never really leaves us, but we can manage it. I hope you feel better in the days ahead. And like I said, shake things up a bit!

[retro_chic]

Originally Posted by DuckyMeeplovesbacon

Write in a journal, everytime something comes up good or bad, record in a journal, you are a great person I can tell and God Blesses you, here

I already write in a journal and it helps in the same way a band aid helps a cut three inches deep. Thank you for taking the time to give me advice though Contrary to what I just wrote, I appreciate it. Unfortunately I'm not a great person at all. That's what got me into this mess.

[retro_chic]

Originally Posted by justanotherday

This trick has helped me quite a few times.

Thank you. I don't think that's a "trick" though. I think that is called living and that is something I seem to be failing at.

[CgRgSm]

I have never wanted to do it. I have nothing but hatred and disgust for everything I have ever seen, everything I have ever experienced. From my experience and in my opinion life is definitely not worth living. It has no point, and in my current position I gain no happiness or joy out of anything, not to say that I ever have. I will be glad when I am finally gone.. but until then I do not have what it takes to pursue that effort in a more timely fashion... I hate everything that can be possibly conceived by a being. I hate humanly functions, I hate the need to eat, I hate sleeping, I hate the need to reproduce, I hate it all. If there is a God I hate it with all my heart whatever that may be. Reproducing is the same if not worse than murder. Nice to meet you.

[retro_chic]

I'm sorry you are feeling so depressed; clearly, I know how you feel.

I agree with a lot of what you said except for the sleeping and eating part. I love doing both of those things. Unfortunately, I need to a little more than sleep and eat to get by in this world.

Nice to meet you too