I hate men...no offense

When i was in my early 20s life felt at least somewhat right. When i hit 24 I figured I met THE guy who turned out to be the gateway to hell. I stayed for soo long because I thought how could someone be so cold and so cruel to treat a woman like she isn't human. I tried to help him but instead he took me down with him. When we finally split I felt stripped but not totally dead inside...not yet anyway. I got my life somewhat right again then met another guy who made me feel like total ****. Then after him my best guy friend screwed me over. Then finally I kinda ran over myself by putting myself into another situation where I get treated like I'm in last place, like I'm trash.....

Now I just feel like a shell...every guy I look at I just want to smack especially when they start talking about women like they do.....Grrrr....and then they wonder when they actually want something real they have a hard time finding it....they wonder why so many women don't want to give them the time of day...or why so many seem so angry or sad....and they even joke about "damaged" women....whatever happend to respect? Women don't even respect women anymore they treat each other like ****...and even compete for those butthead guys attention...wtf is wrong with the world? I'm so tired of feeling like a piece of crap...

I hate posting when I'm completely irrational

Being a guy I'm probably skating on thin ice even responding but... What was irrational about that???

All guys aren't dogs. Maybe someday you will find one who isn't and who appreciates you. Or maybe you won't and you'll still be happy.

I hear your frustration and sorry you've been hurt ((triciadrich)).

I hear you, Sorry that you've had such a bad experience with men

Another man here, I see a lot of guys out there who treat women terribly. I also see a lot of women who continue to chase them and try to make them different. It all confuses me. As a teen, being a "nice guy" I could never get a girlfriend. Of course I had other big issues going on that probably led to that. I am not really friends with guys who are jerks, and I have a fair amount of guy friends. So there are good guys out there.

I don't think what you said was irrational. Especially given your experience with men who have hurt you so much, I'm sorry for that. Thanks for posting this.

triciadrich,

Hello, I am a guy, and I am sorry for what you are experiencing in your life. There is some crazy **** going on in the world. I have no place to say the things I am about to say but they are just my honest opinions.

Not every guy is the same, even though it might seem like they are. Most guys think about 1 thing, sex. They will do whatever it takes to get it, and fast. So they do what works, which usually is being flashy, gaining lots of attention, or being forceful and controlling. There are 2 other kinds of guys out there that you aren't seeing though. That is because they are introverted personality types. You find yourself stuck in a bad spot and keep meeting these ones that don't give you respect because you are naturally attracted to these extroverted personality types. I see this kind of thing go on and on in my own life. The really sad thing about it is there is really no answer to the problem. If you like guys with outgoing sort of traits, then they will usually have lack of respect or being unobservant to your needs as a negative trait.

I, unfortunately, am a very shy, quiet, introverted guy. I have not EVER dated anyone and I am 22 years old. I am no professional but I have been studying human personalities since I was a freshman in high school. No one would want to be around me, I am boring, have no real sense of humor, I can't be entertaining to people. Most people want to be around others who are joking, having a fun time all the time.

Just realize that nothing is your fault, and you aren't a piece of trash. I'm not sure what else I can say.

I'm a woman, and it's true -- we seem to keep being attracted to the same kind of guy over and over again -- consequently, we keep getting HURT over and over again. You'd think we'd learn, but so many of us think we can CHANGE THEM. LOL Can't be done, unfortunately.

DailyHealing & CgRgSm and right. There ARE some nice guys out there. They don't have to be flashy and the life of the party. The quiet guys can be darned nice guys and the real "rocks" of a relationship! I found one -- unfortunately my 'rock' died. I sure miss him.

Best of luck Triciadrich! Hugs, Lee