[Sezzie]

Hi All.
It's me Sezzie.
I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to overcome such a paralysing level of perfectionism. My level of perfectionism is so great that it doesn't let me finish things or sit exams. I just become so determined that i'll fail that i just don't bother!! I've currently bailed out of uni again! No suprises there!!! I'm just so scared that i'm going to end up doing nothing!!!! I am doing nothing much at the moment- but i just don't know how to get over this ridiculous mentality that i have going on. I'm sort of going through a quarter life crisis where i know what i wana be doin now and later and it just feels so hugely out of my reach!!!! It's depressing the crap out of me! I just feel like there's no point to my life!!!!
Please-I would be so grateful if anyone gave me some advice about this or whether they know that it's possible to change this thinking!!
Because i'm so stuck and it's such a horrible place to be in with such high unrelenting expectations!!
-Love and hugs to you all and especially those who are struggling at the mo-
Sezzie

I so desperately need some helpies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Rhapsody]

My solution is simple but can work in time....... Start out at home by placing some thing small out of place and let it stay that way for a week with out fixing it, then move up each week with something bigger and let it stay out of place for a week - in time try leaving dirty dishes in the sink for a day or two (or) dirty clothing on the floor, out in the open, for you to see every day but with out you picking it up..... all things are done with Baby Steps.

Good Luck.............

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Hopefull]

I wish I could give you some great advice but I can't. I try to remeber to think about the positive. I figure up an estimate of how much of the information on the test that I know and asked myself am I going to get much more into my head. If not I go take the test and let myself fail or succeed. I suppose you could also remind yourself that you can take the class over if you need to. If you do fail, what is the worse that can happen? I suspect that you could live through that.
I tend to give up too due to perfectionistic/negative thinking. I hope you figure out a way to curb your perfectionistic thinking.

[Sezzie]

Thanks for your words of wisdom peeps!
This is something i need to work on hard out in therapy- not to give up when the going gets tough. It's just i've been in depression mode for many years of my university life and i'm just wondering how to get out of it. I am going to keep bringing it up in therapy and monitor it i suppose because otherwise i certainly won't be going nowhere with a capital n. I just feel so totally pressured (as everyone does), I'm doing a course that's really hard out- it requires studying like all the time, assessments all the time, and i just have the added thinking that everything i do has to be brilliant and that i have to be highly motivated all the time. It's a very horrible corner to be in. I want to finish the thing i'm doing so badly and i don't see how dropping out of it completely will help. I would just start another degree and continue with the same thinking and i would be no better. This is something i need to get through for myself. I feel that i do have a very good brain and it definitely needs to be put to good use- but it's just the thinking that i have that divides me and doesn't allow me to get over the bridge i need to get over! I'm hoping that therapy can change this thinking- and even if therapy can't change this thinking i hope it can help me with continuing with things even if i can't finish to the level i want to. I must sound like such an uptight person. I am in this particular area of my life but otherwise pretty easy-going. Which sucks really.
Chow for now peeps. Loven listenin to yas
-Sezzie-