[doggiedo]

It's the same thing very night- go home and walk the dog, get dinner, and watch tv. I don't have friends - the few I have are too busy with their own young children. I feel like I'm a loser

[ndgirl]

I spend my nights most the same way. Come home, make supper (if hungry which isn't often), go online or read book. Have only 1 friend that I can hang out with and she needs her alone time too.

[tigerlily84]

You're not a loser. I have 1 friend that just got a really good job so she doesn't have any time to respond to any texts/email. My evenings are spent just like yours.

[shinkikker]

It's the same for me, doggiedo. Come home, take a nap, feed/play with my ferret, watch TV, eat food, take shower, go to sleep, repeat.

[optimize990h]

If I was not on disability for now, then I would have a similar type of life. In fact, work was my social time too.

Doggie is the same for me repetition of hum drum with no social life outside of this place, this is the most real conversation I get to have all week. Your not a loser just settled just like the others around you.

[AngelWolf3]

You definitely are not a loser! I too, only have 1 real friend, and she is going to be moving out soon, so then there won't be anyone. And on the nights I don't have my kids, I do the same thing you do. I like how Tru Butterfly called it "settled." That makes sense to me.

Thank you wolf! It took me awhile to view it as settled. If you want more excitement in life you have to create it. I know sounds cliche but it's true. Settled means that you've found your comfort zone in life, your routine that works for you. Most adults eventually fall into this pattern. There are parts that suck, but it's also nice to be comfortable.

I just don't feel like it's totally uncommon (even for 'normies') to feel as though they are stuck in a rut without friends. It just sort of happens when life and responsibilities takes hold.....I just realized, that in itself is kinda depressing, sorry guys.

[Idiot17]

similar position. i've got freinds but they're all overseas. i cant really ever speak to them, or complain to them. im alone in a city and i don't know anyone here. its driving me to the edge, since i actually am pretty social. hope you make freinds soon.

It's very much the same way with me. It seems like I'm in so much of a rut that my routine goes like clockwork. I come home, nap, look at my emails for a bit, cook dinner, eat, and then turn in.

I would work out at home three days a week after work. But lately I've had a bad back, so that's off. Other days I would ride a bike for an hour after work. That makes me feel better and I can do it when I'm not all well. But that's out, too now because it gets dark when I get home from work.

I feel guillty that I don't go out to anything during the evening. I have gone to group meetings before and they didn't do much for me to make me feel better. So I prefer to just relax after work. But I feel like I'm not meeting anybody doing what I do. On the other hand, when I was going to group meetings, I didn't connect very well with the people there.

[optimize990h]

I feel the same about group therapy, too. I do my exercises indoors so then I feel I have done something therapeutic except take meds and come to PC.