what NOT to say to someone with depression.....????

Oh my personal favorite, Buck up. Or I say how I'm feeling and it's like, oh for heaven's sake, you're never happy, get over it, just deal with it (or live with it), don't you have anything good in your life?, now you're depressing me, you're stressing me out so stop, you're making my stomach hurt, I'm depressed too what makes you so special, there are so many others out there that are worse off than you, you should be thankful, do some knee time and pray....

Depression is rarely ABOUT anything. It drives me nuts that people can't "get" that. It's your brain gone zonkers. There are lots of things we can do to work on putting the brain back into a better state of functioning, but it takes time and work and it's often a total trial and error thing. It's not ABOUT something. (Even if some event sets it off.)

GRRRR.

word, +1 and amen.

On that note, people tell me to find the core of my issues instead of treating "symptoms" with meds. The core? That I'm quite sensitive to depression and anxiety and overwhelmed easily and born that way.

Yea I'll go back in time and fix it. Give myself some new genes and stuff.

(I mean sure there are people who have depression because of trauma or not being loved but also there are people who get depressed sporadically as well.)

there, found it.

yeah i know exactly what you mean!

"You just want to be sad."
So the thousands of dollars on therapy my mother made me spend for years is worth the strange facade of wanting to be depressed, in order to get attention. Right.

Since my depression wasn't something my ex could see or touch (like his alcoholism was??) he never believed it was real. He and his brother used to tell me all the time:

Tell him when he can stop smoking weed then he can criticize you (rolls eyes).

"Everybody gets depressed."

"It's all in your head."

"That's just an excuse."

"You're fine."

I like the "its all in.your head" lol that's always been my personal favorite.....lol

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My mom constantly tells me that I just need to go to church and pray more and then I will feel better and wouldn't have to take meds.

It REALLY drives me crazy

That one's been used on me quite a bit! "If you would just trust in Jesus," "Pay your tithes" blah balh blah

I have health anxiety because I had a skin cancer surgery last year and complications came up after that. Just the other day I looked at myself in the mirror and noticed something that looked odd on my face. It doesn't look like much, but it freaked me out.

I then went to a casual friend at work and told him about it. He said - "oh stop getting yourself worked up about it. You are going to get an ulcer and that's going to be even worse! You will be sick all of the time!"

I told him (in a disapproving tone) that it's easier to say to "snap out of it" than it is to just snap out of it! He seemed apologetic after that. And then he told me that he is struggling with his wife because she has depression. She has depression because a good friend of her passed away a year ago due to cancer. He told me that he is trying to work with her on this. That was nice to hear from him because before he would tell me that it was hard for him to understand why she is depressed the way she is.

"Your depressed? Look at me! My life is crap!"

... all the time from this one friend. She has it pretty bad but... oh god it makes me infuriated. Is that even a word...? Well. It is now.

These just in from my dad, the apathetic and uninvolved parent, when asked about an IOP school program:

"Maybe we just need to start going to church..."

"You just need some vitamins..."

"You need to do something..."

-_- what.

Nomad

You must have some bad karma

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Life ain't that bad.
Cheer up.
The face on you.
Smile.

"sometimes you just have to push yourself"
"Sometimes you have to do things even if you don't feel like it"

There is no such illness as : depression -- anxiety -- bipolar -- nor are there any psysical symptoms . Just stop believing in all that. Those psychiatrists are all quacks.
God I hate it when people say things like that.
Kelti.......