[frownupsidedown]

god, I hate new year's and always have--it just reminds me how alone I am in the world and that I have been alone each and every year of my adult life, having no one to share it with. Even if I'm with people, I fill alone and like no one wants to know me. It's such a deep and painful emptiness and I hate feeling this way year after year. When I make efforts to participate in life and attend family get-togethers or do things with my nephew, instead of feeling happy, I feel sadness and pain...........will this ever change or am I doomed to feel this way the rest of my life?

[0w6c379]

I hate New Year's too and just about every other holiday makes me blue. I hope that life will not always be like this for you. Sounds like you have not found anyone yet that you connect with. I think, one day, you will find someone that feels as you do. Until then, please know that you are not alone in pain as others are having a hard time too.

i hate new years too!

2013 means nothing to me... just the same as you- even more misery than 2012

[Sam2]

Its not unusual for people who are depressed or by themselves to have an aversion to the holidays. The holidays are traditionally times when families are together, so they become, as you say, reminders of the fact that you are still alone.

Finding that one person that you click with is not an easy thing. If it were, everyone would have someone. Once you do find the right person, all the time you spent waiting will be worth it. Not just on the holidays, but all the time. The important thing is not to jump at the first person who seems interested. If you wind up having a divorce, the holidays will seem even worse.

I don't think you are doomed to spend the rest of your life feeling like this. Admittedly, it is harder to find someone these days. Especially for women. There are a lot of dangerous people out there, so picking someone up in a bar is not as safe as perhaps it once was. You can always try one of the online dating systems. Sometimes people just find eachother in unlikely places as well.

Don't give up on yourself or the chance of finding that special person. When the time is right, you will find who you are looking for and you will start looking forward to the holidays.

Sam2

[hiddeng3nius]

New Years and my birthday are the two dates that bring out those feelings in me. It's posts like these that give me the affirmation that I am not alone in this but also the disappointment that us loners seem to never be immediately available for each other.

[busterpal]

New Year's for me is a big reminder that my daughter is still not
speaking to me, four years now. Her daughter, my granddaughter, isanother year older. The last time Isaw her she was 1 month
old. I miss my daughter so much! We had been so close. She even
married her boyfriend without inviting me or any of my or my ex's
family. She has been brainwashed by that boy and poisoned against
all of us, and there is nothing I can do about it. The years just keep
ticking by. My depression gets worse, and my thoughts spin out of
control every birthday, mother's day, holiday and new year. I think about her every day and every day I am saddened more. The new year is just another ugly reminder of my seperation from my daughter and granddaughter.

[dillpickle1983]

Yes the holidays are horrible for me too. NYE is usually worse than Christmas for me for some reason. I'm not sure why though.

[GrownupMom]

Sometimes we bundle up too much hope and expectation in other people, I think. My kid makes me sad, too. But the only thing I can do anything about is me. I hope things come around for the better for you.

[Ladyzero]

I too am alone. No one calls, rings or bothers with me. Even my kids didn't send a h.n.y. text even. That's sad.
Let's all share my misery soup !

[InfiniteSadness]

Originally Posted by frownupsidedown

god, I hate new year's and always have--it just reminds me how alone I am in the world and that I have been alone each and every year of my adult life, having no one to share it with. Even if I'm with people, I fill alone and like no one wants to know me. It's such a deep and painful emptiness and I hate feeling this way year after year. When I make efforts to participate in life and attend family get-togethers or do things with my nephew, instead of feeling happy, I feel sadness and pain...........will this ever change or am I doomed to feel this way the rest of my life?

Feel the same way..

[ramster_hall]

Originally Posted by Ladyzero

I too am alone. No one calls, rings or bothers with me. Even my kids didn't send a h.n.y. text even. That's sad.
Let's all share my misery soup !

Oh the bittersweet taste of misery soup, how I know it well!

[sadstar]

... I didn't even remember it was new years on new years.