[Brwneyedgurl630]

I feel so depressed and don't know how to get over it, Other than to talk about it, the only person I have to talk to is my husband but he just seems to get aggravated. I guess he thinks I'm not happy with him but really right now he's the only thing I feel happy about. I spend most days all alone in a small camper in a new town I will only be in few weeks so making friends is not really easy. When he comes home he's usually not up for talking or doing much, he's tired I get that. I'm not used to being sheltered like this, I'm used to being around friends and family and now I don't have any of it. I just feel invisible and forgotten. I want a job and friends but we move so much I can't. I feel like im supposed to be doing more than dishes and laundry, like chasing my dreams.

That doesn't really sound very healthy for you or your husband. Is he someone who does work that requires him to travel to another job as soon as one is finished?

Please go in to see a specialist is psychiatry. He may want to talk to you and your hausband about making some changes in your lifestyle that can be helpful. Everyone needs more in a marriage than you both are receiving. All work and no play is just not healthy for anyone.

Please get help from the medical community wherever you are even if you're there only two weeks. Both of you need help in establishing a relationship that is more than living in a camper and working, sleeping, and going back to the job. You're missing some of the most valuable things about life living this way.

How are you communicating here? Via cell phone?

Take care and good wishes for changes that will improve things.

[Leed]

I'm so sorry --- You must move around alot, huh? It doesn't sound like anything I'd like.

Bless your heart, I don't blame you. It's got to be pretty lonely. How long are you going to be "on the road.?" Is this a permanent thing or what? I hope not for your sake. Does your husband work a lot of hours? Could he possibly cut down on the number of hours he works so he could spend more time with you?

Perhaps you could talk to a doctor about getting you on an antidepressant temporarily until this mode of living gets back to normal. Will it get back to normal? Anyway, the antidepressants sometimes take a while to work -- some of them can take up to 6 wks to work, while others take maybe a week or two. Ask the doctor how long it will take. But it sure sounds like you could use one, even if it IS temporary. I know you'd rather not need one, but it's better than feeling horrible like this. If you felt better, then you might feel like getting out for walks, seeing people, etc. See a doctor and see what he says.

I wish you the very best. Please keep us informed, will you? We DO care about you.. God bless and hope to hear from you again. Hugs, Lee

[Sam2]

Being alone with your husband away for long hours is hard enough if you have family near. If you have always been close to your family and are now seperated from their support is bound to put a strain on both you and your marriage.

You mentioned that you have tried to talk to your husband but he just seems irritated. Have you come right out and told him that you are having difficulty with your lifestyle and feel depressed? Sometimes we hint at things for fear of causing a problem or upsetting the balance if we are completely honest.

Medical schools are full of divorced students for the reasons that you have put down. One spouse is uprooted for a period of years and away from the support of their family and friends. They feel isolated, alone and depressed. After a while it starts to eat at the marriage, and it falls apart. Although your husband is not in school, the effect is the same. Something has to give. Either he is going to have to meet you halfway or you are going to have problems.

Have you considered getting a part time job for yourself, just to get you out of the confines of the trailer? Staying in that small space with nothing to do and no friends is no better than a prison.

I don't know your husband, so can't tell you whether it would be better to seek counselling for the both or you and then tell him, or talk to him about going to counselling together and then looking. If the job your husband had was a finite period, it would probably be easier to take, but if this is going to go on, you really need to get help.

Please find a way of getting yourself out of the situation, either by getting a part time job, or involved in a church group, counselling, something. Can you get to a phone and call your family? If you can, start there and see if they can give you some advice based on what they know of you and your husband. Your mental health and your marriage are both at stake.

keep coming to the forum. At least there are people here who will communicate with you and understand. Its not the same as in the flesh, but its a lot better than nothing.

Sam2