[penguinsing]

Nothing is more painful and hurt by purposely estranged from family members (brother and his wife).

My brother was silent treatment me few times before, which is very scary. Those treatment are over. But it doesn't mean things are better.

They (brother and his wife) still purposely estranged me.
Why, I don't know anymore. It really hurts, I did all I can already.

His wife treat me like worst then casual friends. Even when you have a business lunch, you would still have more talk.
She is not like that before.

I did have some conflict with my brother in the long past, that I know. But even his wife is purposely estranging me too. (she wasn't like that before) And no she will not admit, she will make excuse and explain that's not the case. And what else of you don't when she don't even admit. No way to communicate or talk regarding the problem. (I have tried to ask her why, etc if I have done something she didn't like )

There's nothing I can do anymore. I just want to try to not seeing them. So I won't feel hurt. But it was my grandmother birthday, so we had to get together for dinner.

I hate myself for trying to talk like very very casual acquaintance to her and my brother. Since I really cannot stand having a meal with these oddness. My family have no problem with each other exist in one space. I feel so sad and outcast that they (brother and wife) only treat me like that.

Even she will have more to say to one of our family friend than me.

I feel so upset. Especially when being treated like this.

You should consider yourself fortunate to be out of a situation like that. Neither of them is as mature as you are, and your life should go on having friends, not enemies with whom you must deal. If your brother ever wakes up to the situation that he is in, you will hear from him again. If not, you are far better off not having them in your life at all.

Because someone is your brother does not mean that you must love and be involved with him or with his wife. You must remember that he has chosen his path, and you have an equal and full right to choose to have healthy people in your life, not sick and mentally ill ones.

Take care of yourself and look for your friendships with mature, content people. If you are ever questioned about it at all from other members of your family, just reply that you did your share and you have nothing further to be involved with. They will receive their just punishment in time; you will eventually see what it does to them to behave in such a way.

Take care of yourself and live happily and peacefully without their problems in your life, please.

[penguinsing]

Thank you. But I still feel very depress.
And I go mess again, not sleeping, and pulling my hair. And feel so lost and trap in a swirl.

It's really hurtful, I wish to avoid seeing them again but I cannot. I have to again, next year, coz it's my grandmother annual birthday "80"

If it is that bothersome for you, why not talk to a psychotherapist to get it out in
the open and have some help in dispelling the tension this family problem causes you? That, in my view, is the best route to follow. Their behavior need not have such a strong influence on your own feelings.

[penguinsing]

I have no $$. I am only on meds coz gov pay for it.

I wish too to see therapy for myself. May be for this issue, but it's so painful to talk about and I have enough of it. I wish to learn to not feel bad and not let them influence my emotion.

[allimsaying]

If you havent done anything to hurt them penguin then they dont have a reason to treat you that way, and even if you did, thats not a way to treat somebody. the problem is theirs. Dont let what you think they're doing tell you that you have low worth. It isnt true.

[CharactorAssassin]

I have similar situation with family. The way I look at it these days myself is I am not capable of having friends or girlfriends and so I don't know who I am except a family member who is really just no one. But the way it is with my family is they have one and i doht even know if i have permission to make a family lol so wont be doing that. I guess because im retarded or something. But hey you cant help that. So besides wanting to disappear im hoping to go off all my meds like a crazy person and see if anyone is there. So that's my plan to see if I exist. If not I will return to nothing and eat goji berrys